Thursday, June 17, 2010

Does my butt look big with this bus?

Raising a large family has it's challenges.
One of them is finding the right transport.

When I first started out having children, I always envisioned I would have lots of kids.
I went over things in my mind, planned for the future and tried to be prepared for things to come.

I have been blessed that I have been able to have a large family but I never imagined, pictured or planned what sort of car I would drive.

We started out with a Station wagon, moved up to a Tarago and have finally settled on a Commuter bus. At first I felt a little teary about this option.

It is not the nicest looking car, it has a larger turning circle and I just can't get into some shopping centre's because the roof is so high. I am happy to say that I can fit into the drive through at the local McDonald's though, to get everyone a 50c cone when we need one!

I remember when I first got the bus and I was feeling a little self conscious, and maybe just a little bit embarrassed, about driving it that I had a wonderful experience.

I looked in my rear view mirror to see how the kids were coping with this change of cars we had made and I was surprised to see that they were loving it! They had their window's open, hair blowing every where and pure delight was on their faces because they had room, they had space, they were sitting up high and it was almost like riding a ride at the showgrounds.

I have found 'the bus' great for our family. We can fit bikes in, lots of shopping in, camping stuff in, beach stuff in and anything we need for fun adventures.


One of the funny things about me driving this bus is the reaction from others.
When I pull up somewhere, lets say at a playground where lots of other kids are playing. It is as if the whole playground goes silent...it stops...parents included, to see what sort of tragedy is about to happen.

This is when I start to smile to myself...

The sliding door opens, normally loudly...and all my kids start to tumble out.
I see the other kids on the playground looking scared and I know they are thinking...'it's a gang of kids coming to get us'. Now my kids are not perfect but they are kind!

Then I see parents counting my kids and it is so fun to see them start to shake their head, like I have committed some crime bringing all these children into the world, and then their mouths drop when they get to the end. Yep! there really is seven!

Then when all the kids are out of the bus. It is my turn.
This is the funniest part.

When I get out of the bus and make my way around to the other side of the car, to normally close the sliding door because the last person out has of course forgotten to close it, people stare at me. It is like they are in shock!

After they have stared for a while they then look me up and down, I mean, totally look me up and down. Especially women!

They start forming a judgement in their mind and begin to wonder about this spectacle and they always seem to look at my butt. I get so tempted to give them a big flash of my butt just so they can have a closer look - with clothes on of course!

They love to see if I am overweight (which of course I am in my own small way) and it is as if they are saying to themselves...no way are all those kids hers, she doesn't look like a woman who should have 7 kids.

So off I go to play with my kids and after spending a little time at the playground, I sit and wait.

Why? because I know that these other mother's there can't stand it, they have to know.

Sure enough I will either see a mother asking one of my kids or have one of them come over to me to ask: 'Are those really all your kids?"
'Yes, they are." I always reply
and then comes the next statement.
"No, you don't look like you have seven kids."

My next question to them is: 'What is someone with seven kids supposed to look like?"

Now I understand that people are just fascinated, in shock and intrigued with the fact that I have seven kids. I have days where I am in shock about it too! I am happy to answer questions and tell them that yes, I did plan to have all these children (all except the twins, we did not expect to have twins) and yes we do have a television!

I know I am not alone in having a large family, there are so many combined large families today and there are plenty of other women who desire to have lots of kids too. Most comments from people are kind and on the days I get unkind comments I try not to let it get to me.

I am used to driving my bus now, I love it, and I am used to talking to people about our family.

For now though it really has come down to me asking myself when I go out...
....does my butt look big with this bus?

31 comments:

  1. Your kids are adorable!!

    And no, your bum does not look big with that bus.=)

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  2. Loving this post, in particular the comment about what you are supposed to look like if you have 7 children.
    On the bus front a girlfriend of mine lives on a property in SW QLD with hubby & 5 little girls. She found an old bus in Toowoomba and they proceeded to 'girlyfy' it for the school bus run. Now you can see a hot pink bus [about the same size as yours but a LOT older] with lots of flowers all over the outside crashing through the paddocks before and after school five days a week! I don't think they've ever hit a roo but they sure make a lot of people smile [well as many as there are in that isolated part of the world].
    Drive your bus with pride!
    X Felicity

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  3. Just found your blog today and I'm so glad I did. I love that you have a lovely big family (how gorgeous are your children!) and I especially love it when you said "Now my kids are not perfect but they are kind". Kindness. So important. You are my sort of gal! I'll look forward to following you.

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  4. It's amazing how women treat eachother sometimes. The fact that you get critical looks and comments really bugs me. Mums like you should be given medals. xox

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  5. Thanks for your comments ladies!
    Love the hot pink bus idea...hmmm sounds like a great way to spend the tax cheque when it comes...I think I should start designing the paint job.
    Ally thanks for offering medals...don't need them...I have enough battle wounds (stretch marks) to know I have fought a good fight! love Naomi

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  6. Thanks for your comments on my blog today. I struggled when I moved up to the bus with a sliding door! Your own private mini-van. Must be tops. I am SURE your butt doesn't look big in it though. And if it does, you earnt it!

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  7. I think it's good to see large families. I only have 3 kids but people give me weird looks like I'm a freak, it's unfortunate because it makes me wonder if I shouldn't have anymore kids, because people think it's 'too many'.
    Growing up, one of our neighbors had 12 or 13 children (i lost count), and my grandmother was the youngest of 15! I think we need to embrace large families. Just because it's 'too much effort' for some people doesn't mean it's wrong, or should be taboo.

    Hooray for big families!

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  8. I know! when I had 3 kids people would make comments and stare, now it is even worse! It is a personal choice. Just like I don't put down people who don't want kids or want one child.
    I never let what anyone thinks stop me from doing what I want...it is my happiness and my life not theirs. I am over it!

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  9. Your kids looks gorgeous. It's good you can go through the drive-thru. That's our special treat too.

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  10. What a lovely family! I get so many comments with my four girls -- so I can sympathise with you. Isn't it funny how strangers feel like they should be able to pigeon-hole someone else so easily? Maybe we've become so used to stereotypes in the media that we no longer recognise the truth of our world's great diversity.

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  11. I feel nothing but admiration for people with large families. I never considered having 4 kids as a large family - but the rest of the world seems to think I have a LOT of kids. So silly. I think your bus is GREAT!

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  12. Hi! No, your butt doesn't look big, I'm quite certain! :)
    I enjoyed the post. Love the idea of driving a bus, such power! Not sure you'd approve of my blog cuz I swear alot and pretty much make fun of my kids, but you are delightful! Rock on sister friend!

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  13. Naomi, I wanted to pass on the link to http://megafamilies.blogspot.com/ -- you qualify -- I've got a way to go yet!

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  14. Well, you could have posted a photo of your bum too...

    Hehe.

    No, your bum does not look big with that bus. And honestly, people are judgy aren't they? I've only got 2 (atm) but I get asked how old I am. I know. Really.

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  15. No, actually, I think the van flatters your butt nicely. And your kids are gorgeous!

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  16. Ooh, look am the first commenter. Hehe.

    Happy AMB Blog Carnival Day, Naomi.xx

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  17. How happy do your kids look?!! Awesome!

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  18. I've been guilty of saying to a mum 'you don't look like you've had x amount of kids', but I mean it as a compliment, honest!

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  19. I really think after the responses I have had that I need to do a post on my butt! Hear Mum Roar - I know what you are saying - I think I have done it myself a couple of times and it is always lovely to hear when it is a compliment. Naomi xx

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  20. Your children are gorgeous, and they look so happy. You must be doing something right x 7!

    As far as driving a bus goes, whatever works right--it's better than everybody being uncomfortable.

    Visiting from the Blog Carnival.

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  21. Your kids all look gorgeous and like they are really loving all the room in the bus (not to mention their mum taking their photo!)

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  22. I know how you feel about the bus. I had the same dilemma when we had to upgrade to a 7 seater with the birth of our fourth child last year. I didn't want to be one of those mums getting out of their "big rig" at school pick up, but I'm used to it now. Big families = big cars what can you do?
    (and I'm sure my bum looks big with my rig)

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  23. HA! I know what you mean. My husband is one of 12! And they have a huge 14 seater bus. You should watch her reverse park it.

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  24. I love reading your blog! You are doing a fantastic job as a Mum of 7. It really is a shame when people are so judgemental, yeah? I only have one child and I'm content with just the one. This also seems to cause some confusion amongst the judgemental crew. They seem to think I need at least one more.
    My son is out own personal miracle and I genuinely felt like I had a piece of my soul missing until he came along. I am full to bursting now with our meager family and I think people need to understand that other families are not designed to fit into 'their idea' of the right amount of children.
    It's good that you can laugh about it...I'm still at the slow boil/simmer stage! Laughter will follow soon, I'm sure!

    Take care

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  25. Love the picture of your gorgeous kids in the bus. Great post. :)

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  26. oh that post is sooooo funny! gosh I get the commments with 3 and number 4 on the way so I can imagine you get it with 4!

    your kids are just so gorgeous so hopefully they stare because your kids are so beautiful!!!!!!!

    Corrie;)

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  27. Hello, there! Found you through Casual Blogger!

    Truth is, it doesn't really matter what you do, there is always someone who will find fault... Don't ever worry about them... Enjoy your beautiful family and your bus... Can't say anything about your bum because that picture seems to have become lost in the uploads... just sayin'... Come visit when you can and don't forget to pop over to my other blog, Rockin' Chair Reflections! Happy Holidays!.

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  28. Awesome to see! Growing up we had 4 of us and a chocolate making business, we had a.... SUPER CARRY VAN! It was a mini van and it was soooo 'crouch down and hide your head in shame' when we'd pull up at high school for drop off. Plus my dad would wear his dressing gown to drive me.
    SO I think you have made the right choice in cars for your family!
    MY butt looked big against our tiny van.

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  29. Love your bus, love your kind beautiful kids, love your butt, love your blog. And no, your butt doesn't look big in this bus. :)

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  30. I remember this post! I loved this post. I have to admit though that I suspect I might have a mild moment of panic to look over the back of the driver's seat and see all those faces looking back at me. Cute as they are.

    But not as much panic I'd have at the thought of having to reverse park a commuter bus. I take my hat off to you!

    Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro!

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  31. This was so fabulous! And your picture reminded me of the "Great White Beast" or the GWB as we affectionately called it. Our family lived in Sweden for 5 1/2 years ( we are Americans). During that time we biked a lot and rode the buses and trains often. At one point we bought this used Ford Tourneo van which was HUGE--especially for Sweden. I could haul a herd of kids, enough stuff for an extended vacation and all our bikes in that van. Sadly, we sold the van before moving back to the U.S. But I will never forget our adventures in the GWB.

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