I have had to look back over my years of life (all 35 plus years - which today seems like ages) to try to remember what used to make me happy. As I have done so I have been able to remember little pockets of time where I felt pure happiness. Little moments of pleasure in the simple things and tiny treasures of joy that I was able to experience and delight in.
Reflecting on these experiences I realised that I have stopped doing what makes me happy because my time is taken up with housework, mothering and wifing (is that really a word??? is now!). I believe these things are very important and are truly worth my time but after some thought I can see that I am now at a stage where I can begin to do some of those things that make me happy again. I can start to plan them into my life a little at a time and begin to do more things for me....things that will make me happy, not everyone else.
"Happiness is a state of mind,
therefore the real source of happiness lies in the mind,
not in external circumstances."
I totally agree. I have seen people with nothing, no material possessions, that were truly happy. Their happiness came from simple things. After pondering this quote I realise that I need to change my thoughts, my ideas on what is going to make me happy and that I need to decide to be happy with the things that I already have in my life.
So after all this thinking what is going to make me happy?
Here is what I came up with so far:
Family adventures - I love hanging out with my family, exploring new places and just playing with each other
Flowers - love fresh flowers (now that I know where the flower market is - there is no reason why I cannot pop on over to get me a bunch every so often)
Music - I love listening to different styles of music - I am going to take a stand and insist that we play some songs that I like instead of the wiggles and the latest teen music
Books - I am going to make an effort to read more- with the books that I already have... (great! my kids are thinking, because when I read more it means they are going to read more) and to plan it into my schedule
Hugs - I love getting them and giving them. I want to slow down, to be found sitting down so that I can be on a level to hug the kids more and that they feel they can approach me for one. I also want to focus on giving more to Matt, especially when he gets home from work - need to fight the kids off to do this one!
Dancing around the house - In our house we love putting the music up load and dancing our little hearts out. I love it when the whole family gets involved and it makes me laugh to see the little ones giving a dance move a good try. We have been so busy lately we have not made time for our dance nights and I miss them.
Of course I have many other things that make me happy such as: sunsets, the ocean, creating craft, coriander, dark chocolate, gardening and bargains but I need to start slowly to add things into my life and the ones I have chosen to expand on are the ones I will start with first.
So what I need to do now is let go of wanting everything to be organised, to be perfect and to do the things that will make me happy. Sure a house of order is great but life is passing me by while I pick up the toys for the 100th time or I sweep the floor for the 4th time that day. I want to be remembered for living life, participating in life and not for standing on the sidelines wishing I was out there doing it.
So here's to happiness and finding what really does make us happy.