Thursday, September 30, 2010

A Mother Heart Linky Love


One of my passions is mothering. I love talking and writing about it.
It is my full-time work and consumes most of my time and thoughts.

I believe it is a great work to raise children and being a stay at home mum has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. It has been so worth the sacrifices I have needed to make. I also believe in the power of mothers. I feel it is important to strengthen mothers as women.

One of the ways that I am really strengthened as a mother and a woman is by learning, hearing, reading and talking to other mothers about how they raise their children. About the struggles they have and the challenges they face. I love learning from other mothers how they feel about mothering and what little things they do in their homes to be better mothers for themselves and their children.

So today I want to try my first mother, mummy, mommy linky day where you can share what thoughts, tips or ideas you have about being a mother and in turn I could learn a lot more about how to be a great mother.

I have decided to call it 'A Mother Heart' because often as mothers the way that we write is straight from the heart. We share our burdens, our desires, our worries and our deepest sorrows and joys. We need to share them to uplift each other and to know we are not alone.

So today I hope you can join in and link up 'A Mother Heart' post.
It can be an old post, a new post and any type of post that relates to being a mother.

I am looking forward to your thoughts and heart felt words

Monday, September 27, 2010

mother linky love

One of my passions is mothering.
I love talking and writing about it.

{I guess just by the fact that I have a bunch of kids you would get that idea ~ right?}

I believe it is a great work to raise children and worth the sacrifices we need to make.
I also believe in the power of mothers.

I think we can make a difference {with the way we raise our children in our homes} that will reach out into future families, into communities and make this world a better place to live. I am not talking about big, huge, dramatic events but the small things that we do each day to show love and kindness in our families.

I also love writing and talking about strengthening mothers as women.
Sometimes we forget that we are people too!
That we need to take care of ourselves as well.

I am interested in learning from other mothers how they feel about mothering and what little things they do in their homes to be better mothers for themselves and their children.

So I was thinking of starting a 'mother', mummy, mommy linky day {on a Thursday ~ as by Thursday I am normally worn out from a busy week and need some inspiration!} where you could share what thoughts, tips or ideas you have about being a mother and in turn I could learn a lot more about being a great mother.

Anyone out there interested???

Sunday, September 26, 2010

blogging sickness

I don't know if there is such a title as 'blogging sickness' but I am creating it *now* and I think I have a very bad case of it. I don't know how to describe it, how to explain it, or how to fix it.

All I can tell you is that since I started this blog, I have such an urge to write, not just once a week or a couple of times a week but....everyday! Help! 

I have always loved to write and to express myself in this form but now I have all these thoughts and ideas flowing forth and I find myself getting frustrated because just don't have enough time in the day to record it all.

I am finding a real peace of mind and a sense of release as I write and share my thoughts here on my blog. I even told someone the other day that I am a writer...I was shocked when it flew out of my I really????

I originally was so excited that even a few of my friends were interested in my words and I have been so touched by the wonderful friends I have made and uplifting comments that you have left for me. Thank you so much.

I think one of the main reasons I love to blog and want to do it every day is because I am having so much fun! I love having a creative space online and I can't believe the skills I am learning with technology and social networks.

Seriously, who knew I could link to other blogs and even to myself. Who knew I could design my own banner and add a facebook page to my site! I still have such a long way to go in blogging terms but for now I am so enjoying being 'sick' and I hope this illness hangs around for a long time!

Anyone else out there with the same sickness???

Friday, September 24, 2010

rejecting perfection

"If I could wish for my life to be perfect,
it would be tempting but I would have to decline,
for life would not longer teach me anything."
Allyson Jones

Lucky for me,
I was blessed to be sent these two cherubs,
who have taught me more than I could ever have imagined.

They taught me that I could love more than one child at the same time,
at the same moment, right from birth and there was room enough in my heart to feel such a deep love.

They helped me learn a protective love, 
right from that first moment I held them,
that shields them from stares, 
from questions and comments. 

They have helped me learn how to function on no sleep,
that I could dig deeper than I thought possible,
that I could be the type of mother they needed me to be,
not who I thought I should be.

These boys have made me cry,
from the pure delight of them,
for the sheer naughtiness of them and
for the great gift they have been to me.

My life could have been perfect in many ways with four children,
and I would have learnt many things....
but, with these boys
I have been able to learn so many skills that I did not want to learn....

and for that I am thankful.

p.s - this is the only photo I have where I think Sam and Eli look identical.
I don't think they are identical, I don't know!

Saturday, September 18, 2010

100 ways to be happy - Number 5. Find your own happiness

I have been slowly working through my 100 ways to be happy list. The original list that I found is HERE and I carry it around with me all the time. I take it with me so I can ponder over what I want to focus on and then work out how I can plan activities and adventures into our family life.

Recently, as I have been pouring over this list I have learnt that to be happy I need to find my own list and create my own happiness. It has been wonderful to have something to start off with to help me get my thoughts flowing and my focus more directed towards happiness.

Now I am feeling more confident within myself and after trying several different activities I am starting to get a feel of what I like and love. It seems such a long time ago that I actually had time for me in my life. Most of my time has been spent raising children and running our house and that has been important and a real priority for me but during that time I really let go of the loves and treasures that gave me happiness and uplifted me.

These joys were not big activities but little, tiny moments of happiness that were just for me. I used to have time for them, I could fit them into my schedule and I looked forward to those rewards. I am finding now the need to put some of those treasures back into my life and to make time for them.

At first when I started thinking about what I love and what makes me happy, I could not remember. It had really been sooooo long. I then started to look back over my life. It is sad to say that I really had to go all the way back to High School to remember some of the things that I loved to do. {I do have to say here that I am so glad that I am not back in High School - pimples, pressure and homework - no thanks!}

During High School I remembered that I loved music, yoga, short hair cuts, dancing, fashion and books. You know what! I still love those things today but I had let a lot of them go out of my life because I was so busy. Slowly, I have been putting them back in. I cut my hair short HERE and started doing Yoga again this week at home. It was been relaxing and wonderful. I had to stop and ask myself - Why did I ever let it go???

As mothers we place ourselves last on the list. It is just what we do. There are so many demands for our time and so many needs of others that we devote our time to helping them instead of helping ourselves. This is an excellent trait that as women we generally have. It is lovely, it is kindness and it is important. But, what we tend to forget is that we need some kindness in our lives as well.

Over my time as a mother I have learnt that to be a 'happy mother' means having some time for you too! Something to look forward to, to get excited about and something that is special and just for you. I am looking forward to taking this list and making it mine, changing it and finding what happiness really is for me. It is going to be my special gift to myself.

I hope you make time to find your own happiness and find joy in your journey.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

the first baby kick

Today I was sorting through some paperwork. I just have to say first of all - I hate paperwork - it builds up so fast in our house and drives me crazy! I have tried different systems but still get overwhelmed. I think it is just the way it is going to be in our house.

Anyway, I was delighted to find a journal entry that I had written about the first time I felt a baby kick in my stomach. I love keeping journals and have journals and pieces of paper all over the place. One day I will get my act together and compile them. One day......

Well, I sat down and read my journal entry. So many memories came flooding back and it seems so long ago. But, as I read through the words it seemed just like yesterday.

I had a difficult start to my pregnancy with Chelsea. A lot of morning sickness. I vomited over the smell of everything. I was horrible. I quickly learned what food tastes good the second time around and what food is just not worth eating as it burns your nose and throat out!

During this time I cried a lot and prayed and prayed that the sickness would go away.
Then one day it did. It stopped just like that. Such a relief!

As I read I remembered the morning the kick happened.

I had decided to have a leisurely bath to start the day. It was peaceful (as we had no children yet) and Matt had come in briefly to say goodbye to me as he was off for the day. As he lent over to say goodbye to me I felt a kick in my stomach.

It really shocked me!

It felt like someone had punched me from the inside. It was powerful and distinct.
It was as if Chelsea was saying 'I am here, notice me, are you ready for me?'.

I couldn't believe it and I was so excited that I cried. Matt of course had no idea what was making me emotional until I shared with him what had happened. We were both tickled pink that our little cherub was growing and developing normally.

I was touched by the miracle of life, the creative powers we have as women and that I was being blessed to be a mother and to have the opportunity to have a child.

I was an enjoyable time as the kicks became more frequent and I could connect with our baby more. Little did I know at the time just how powerful those kicks would become later and how much sleep I would lose as Chelsea strengthened her muscles with lots of aerobic exercises in my stomach.

The girl who started it all - Chelsea

All of these baby memories seem so far away now as Chelsea is about to turn 12.
I am so thankful I recorded those moments to treasure always.

Do you remember your first baby kick???