As a young mother I had some high ideals.
My kids were not going to be snotty nosed, disney character loving, eat off the floor kids. They were going to have excellent manners, use tissues at all times, look respecatable at all times and turn their noses up at any food items that hit the deck.
Oh! how times have changed in my house.
Having spent the past nine years with three or four children at home I have gone through stages where I wore snotty snail tracks on my clothes for years in a row and even resorted to using clothing to wipe kids noses. Mine or theirs. I was really shocked to find myself yelling at the kids one day for not wiping their nose with the t-shirt they were wearing. What type of mother had I become?
I was very different to what I expected I was going to be like and did not know that during this time survival of each day was going to be so much more important than what I or my children looked like during the day.
During this time I also found myself almost begging them to love a disney character so I could buy them a quick fix to keep them quiet some days. I wanted them to have a favourite character so that I had at least one fall back plan to bring me some peace of mind in those stressful moments that come with many cherubs at home.
To lower the standards even more I even found myself encouraging my kids to quickly grab food off the floor, to save me more time and even justified my actions to my kids. So many times a plate has dropped on the floor and I have been so run off my feet helping kids with dinner that I have scrapped it back into the bowl, served it up to the poor cherub whose meal it was and carried on.
I have had many doors open in my motherhood journey and many doors close. I have changed my mind about what works for me and what works for my children. I have briefly opened some doors I never thought I would to help me survive motherhood and closed them as quickly as I could when I felt strong enough to continue being the kind of mother I wanted to be.
We each face challenges and trials that sometimes divert us from the motherhood path that we wish and want to take and opening a new door to help us survive this time is alright and even necessary as we try to be the best mothers we can.
What about you ~ what have you changed your mind about in your journey?
What new doors have you had to open?
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p.p.s - my kids now use tissues, they mostly look respectable and we no longer eat off the floor!
p.p.s.s - we love Disney!