Sunday, May 22, 2011

Time out for women


I love taking time out. Just a little time away from everything to help me relax, restore my thoughts and to rejuvenate myself back to where I want to be. As a mother and a woman, I need regular time out. I find it keeps me sane, it gives me something to look forward to and allows me to breathe again.

One of secrets to keeping it all together with a large family, is that once a year I take a weekend away by myself. Yes, all by myself. Matt looks after the kids and I book myself into a hotel and chill out.

Just me, just the room and just my thoughts.

I don't go to the extreme and book myself a luxury weekend away (although that would be nice), I pick a place to stay that is affordable and a place that will provide me with some quiet and a bed to relax on.

Here are the reasons why I do it:

1. Doing this once a year gives me something to look forward to and believe me, as a mother, some days you need at least one thing to look forward to! It keeps my heart and mind happy to know that I can plan and prepare for what I will do that weekend.

2. This weekend is just for me. As a mother and a woman I find that so much of my time is spent helping and caring for others that often I am left behind. This allows me to focus on what I need and what I need to do to care for myself.

3. I normally take my computer or a large journal/notepad and plan out my year of what I would love to have happen in my life and for my family. I love being able to do this without being interrupted and disturbed fifty million times an hour. Alright, I am really over exaggerating but you get the picture!

4. Having some time away and apart from my family helps me to fall in love with my family all over again. At first it is really hard to be apart from them and my heart and thoughts constantly are wondering how they are going, but once I start planning and writing, my desire to want to help them and myself progress takes over and I settle into a great weekend of loving my time out to myself.

5. A quiet hotel room, a notepad and a pen allows me to nurture myself. I sleep, I read, I think, I ponder and I remember and connect with who I am again. I am not Matt's wife and Chelsea's or Nathan mother. I am Naomi again, even just for one weekend. It is lovely to remember who I am, what I want from life and to access what I value and treasure. It makes a difference to my emotional, mental and spiritual welfare.

Now, I know not everyone is able to do this and for many years I was not able to do this myself. It does not have to be a weekend away, it can even be one night or even a couple of hours, but having some time out makes a difference and is important.

This year I am soooo looking forward to taking some time out. In fact I am going to an event called Time Our For Women in Sydney as part of my time out weekend. It is an inspirational event put on by Deseret Book (who I love to buy books from!) and this is the first year that it is coming to Australia. I have been hearing about it in America for years and am so excited that it is coming here!

It is a wonderful opportunity to connect with women from all over Australia and to get recharged through motivational messages and music. The theme for this year is: Choose to Become and believe me I am choosing to become by attending this event.

One of my favourite presenters will be Hilary Weeks. I so love her music and have a few of her CD's that I love to listen to. I also love that she is a keeping it real kind of mother and woman and she has a great sense of humour. Check out one of my favourite songs below:



Time Out for women is going to be held in Sydney on Saturday July 23rd at the Sydney Olympic Sports Centre Arena and if you are interested in reading more about it, you can check it out here.

I also love to take some time out by having a hot bubble bath, reading a book, catching a movie, going out for a hot chocolate and by reading other blogs! I hope that you have the chance to take a weekend away, to restore and to renew. I am so looking forward to July and my mind is already going crazy thinking of all the things I want to dream about on that weekend.

What do you do to take time out???

20 comments:

  1. Good on you Naomi. I do have a kid free weekend once a year too. I'm not on my own though, I usually do something with my sister in law, but it's relaxing.

    This year I'm going to go to Sydney and do the city to surf. In my endeavour to feel fit and healthy I'm sure this will be inspiring for me.

    I totally understand though. enjoy.

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  2. This is THE most brilliant thing I've read and I can tell it would be a multi-layered gift for your whole family with a very happy reunion for all at the end.

    Thank you for your wise inspiration & happy weekend,

    xx Felicity

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  3. What a fantastic thing for you to be able to do for yourself.
    I have my one trip a year which is a girls weekend away in March. Well it started as a weekend and we've managed to turn it in to a four day long weekend as the years went on. But I've never thought to do something by myself. I can only imagine how invigorating it must me. I think I might start planning my own 'me' weekend away.

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  4. You'll love it, Naomi! And you'll love Hillary just as you expect :) I've been able to go to TOFW on th years they've held them in my area of Canada, and they've been great- and Hillary is totally a favourite of mine! :)

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  5. Oh i absolutly love this idea! I think i need to try and find soemthing for me
    I am currently having that battle of finding soemthing JUST for me but i will get there, there has to be something for me.

    I couldnt agree more that its important for us to have some just "me" time once you become a mother its so easy to get emerged in being just that

    great post hun
    x

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  6. What a great tradition for you! Have a great time!

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  7. Thanks for your comments ladies. Love that some of you already have a weekend away and hope that you can find a weekend just for YOU. I love my weekend time out and it is a tradition I am not willing to give up :) Naomi x

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  8. Oh, I love this Naomi! This would be heaven for me, but I know that there are 2 main obstacles that I would have to overcome in order for this to happen.
    1. MotherGuilt: feeling guilty about being away from the family, not fulfilling their needs.
    2. I am voiceless when it comes to asking/stating what I want. Always putting others considerations before mine.
    Baby steps xxxx

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  9. A super idea Naomi! I loved reading this and to hear its all for you. To reconnect and remember you is important, and I think this will inspire others out there to take it on. As my children are now grown I more time for me, but still manage to do a lot for others and forget. I regularly have a bath with candles and write down my goals and thoughts. Thank you for such an inspiring post.
    Rebecca x

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  11. Lovely idea and a lovely post. I agree that every woman and every mother needs to actively devote some time to 'time out'.

    I am looking forward to going to a yoga retreat in July, just me and two close friends and a small bunch of women I haven't met yet all investing some time in relaxing and reconnecting. xx

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  12. Wow, reading you saying that, how you take that weekend way from your family, yes you miss them and yes you enjoying comes back to my really struck a cord in the most beautiful way. I find being a mother of 5 young children that I never get time to myself, just me to shower, go to the toilet or just each dinner without someone sitting next to me going "aah, me too please"
    I would love to be able to soon do this, to take this time for just me, to regenerate as a mum, a wife and as a woman to enjoying just getting to know me again! Hopefully once Harry is 1, sleeping through the night and not b'feeding again, i will take this idea and run with it! Sorry long post tonight, its just its so refreshing reading your blog every day Naomi, you trully inspire me! Thanks! Kirsty xx

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  13. Yet another inspirational post! I love this idea, will have to implement it one day myself - this sort of heaven is well deserved by mummies! The event sounds very interesting too, will check it out x

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  14. Fantastic post! I love having time for myself, usually every month I have a few hours to shop just for myself or go to the movies. It's great to refocus and find your thoughts!

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  15. Thanks for the comment love, as you all know I believe there are different times and seasons in life and I know not everyone can get the chance to do this but I so hope that you can find a little time out for you every so often. You all work so hard helping others you deserve a little treat too! Enjoy your time out ladies xx

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  16. You have no idea how relieved I am to have read this Naomi! I regularly organise 'girls nights' with my mothers group - a night where we can go out to dinner somewhere (even just for thai or chinese - nothing fancy) and enjoy each others company and catch up without kids interrupting and so on. I always feel a small amount of guilt (only small, because we always meet up after we've put the kids to bed, so they're not missing out on our time) for doing so, but boy does it make a difference! Having that time really gives all of us a 'reset' and does enable us to be better mother's because we have a better sense of who we are as individuals rather than getting lost in the roles of 'mother' and 'wife'. Fantastic post! I would love a weekend away myself, but will stick to my girls nights every 4-6wks for now. :)

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  17. I thoroughly enjoyed this post Naomi,

    Through my journey of my life...I always seemed to want that space....Somehow I managed to find solitude in different forms..You have inspired me to write a post about this and I will link it to your post....now I got you thinking :)

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  18. What a fabulous idea. I love this! At the moment, every 3-4 months I go for a facial. So it's not really me by myself, but it helps me relax. And I DEFINITELY look forward to it!! :)
    Have fun. Sounds like it will be wonderful!

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  19. PERFECT! I'm so inspired. I'm booking a weekend "off" and googling Hilary Weeks. You just made my day, Naomi, thank you xx

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  20. This was a great read! I couldn't remember the last time I took time out for myself. I'm going to have to save this article for when I finally get around to it. I particularly liked the suggestion of keeping a pen and paper hand while reading lds books. Thanks again for the information!

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Thank you for your thoughts...Naomi x