Romance and Happiness....do they go together for you???
Are you a romantic at heart or are you at a stage of life where it has become a thing of the past???
I love a little romance in my life and even with children, Matt and I try our best to plan in some time out dates and romance to keep our love alive. It takes thought, planning and preparing to make it happen.
Every so often we get caught up in our busy schedules and become slack in focusing on each other. When this happens we sit down and try to plan out when we are going to go out for dates and what date ideas we can do at home. We try to make every Friday night date night. It does not always work out that way but mainly we try to keep this night just for us.
When our cherubs were younger and we knew it was going to be difficult to get out for date time, we planned a whole year of date nights ideas and slotted them in every Friday night for a year. If a Friday night came up with a date idea that we did not feel like doing or could not get to work we simply swapped it for another one. I will have to blog about them some time. Here are a few examples:
Play a board game
Cook a dessert together
Hire a movie to snuggle and watch together
Write each other poetry - so funny!
Eat dinner late after the kids are in bed with candles
Draw a portrait of each other - hilarious!
Give each other a massage
Leave love notes for each other to find
Our ideas were simple and they were activities that allowed us to spend time together and to just focus on each other. They often involved being kind to each other and small acts of service. In this way we were able to remember that even though our relationship with our cherubs is important, our relationship with each other is the most important. We value our marriage and believe in putting time and effort to make it work and to keep our romance alive.
I wanted to introduce you to a lovely site that I found called the Dating Divas. The focus of this site is on strengthening marriages, one date at a time. Here are the lovely ladies who contribute to the site below:
They have some great date ideas with pictures and printouts to help you have a lovely romantic time together. As you can see there are many ladies contributing so there is a great variety to choose from.
Some other sites you may be interested in that relate to romance are:
Love Actually
Loving you
Nifty Date ideas
It does not cost a lot of money to be romantic. It does not need to always involve flowers or chocolate, even though they are lovely. For us it involves the little things like, holding hands, opening a door, a smile, a wink and kind words. These little things make my life wonderful and bring me much more happiness than diamonds and jewellery and for me - that is really saying something!
Mr.Kypo and I had just been discussing this subject a few weeks ago. he came to the conclusion that 'flirt' is a must, hence the flirt is now going on in this place. He and I speak to totally different love languages. Once I discovered this, it all fell back into place. X
ReplyDeleteI love all those ideas!! We are definatly at a point where we feel we need to start finding one night together i think its important so we dont just fall into the roles of mum & dad SAHM & provider.
ReplyDeleteWill definatly be checking out some of the other sites and using some of your ideas too
Let the rekindling begin!
xxx
Totally agree relationships take work and good planning is required. Good post to remind us all.
ReplyDeleteAfter almost 20 years(next Feb)...we still write love notes (sometimes through texts, emails) We still have fun dancing around the house, still cuddling on the couch. Going for late night walks. I feel its important to keep focus on your marriage. It sets a good tone for you children too. :)
ReplyDeleteThis is so important Naomi, thank you for the post and reminder.
ReplyDeleteI often work on a Friday night, but not this weekend.
Hubby and I played yahtzee and then draughts on Friday night, before retreating to the lounge to listen to some music and dance up a storm. We drank wine, ate an awesome lamb rack and had brownies for desert.
Romance was definitely in the air that night, and we have felt more connected ever since.
Nic xo
I am so impressed at your organisation, Naomi. This is definitely something we need to do on PB. I think our new house will help - now we all have a lot more space and aren't falling over each other all the time! J x
ReplyDeleteI must be thinking the same thing as you as only tonight have I done a little post on wondering where my passion and romance has gone. Thanks for these links - am off to check them out right now!!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for this post. I have been regretting the fact that Mr E and I rarely have any couple time together. We had our first dinner sans kids about a month ago and that was the first time in 18 months.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to be checking out those websites to see what ideas appeal.
we plan date nights, we usually get about 2 a month of actual nights out, but we try to take advantage of having lunch occasionally and always taking advantage when the kid stays the night with a friend!
ReplyDeleteWe do have to try to date our mates:) It really is necessary...Thanks for sharing this site
ReplyDeleteThanks for dropping by ladies. Love that there is a little flirting going on and even some wonderful dancing in the lounge room. Keep up the great romance work ladies and I hope you get the time to check out some of the links. Have fun! N x
ReplyDeleteI love this Idea. I like red heart. According to me each and every couples are like these types of red hearts. This valentine my husband gave me this types of red heart.
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