Monday, October 31, 2011

My Postnatal Depression story

I believe in facing your fears and following your heart.

If I knew I could not fail, one of the things that I would talk about is Postnatal Depression. I would be brave enough to share part of my story with others in the hope that it would be helpful...to at least one other person.

If I helped at least one other person, it would be worth being brave for, it would be worth opening up my heart for and would be worth being criticised for. It would be worth sharing what the symptoms of Postnatal Depression are, that there are many women who struggle with this challenge and there is support and help available.

I have dealt with many challenges on my motherhood journey and Postnatal Depression was a scary, lonely journey that was a shock and total surprise to me when I discovered that was what I had.

So today, I wanted to be brave and to share my personal experience of Postnatal Depression as it is not talked about enough. I wanted to do this as I worry about all the women that have Postnatal Depression and do not even know it.

They struggle alone and in silence.
It can be a traumatic, exhausting and anxiety filled path.

Motherhood can be a lonely journey and I wanted to share my story to encourage more women to speak up for themselves and to ask for help if they need it.

There is nothing wrong with admitting we need help.
It does not mean we are a failure as a mother.

I have needed help many times on my motherhood journey.
It was the last thing I wanted to ask for but I knew I needed it.

I decided to share my Postnatal Depression story with you in a vlog. Once again, it is not very good quality vlog wise but it is as good as it is going to get from me right now.

I hope you can feel from my heart how passionate I am about Postnatal Depression.

It is real, it changes you and it can be overcome.



32 comments:

  1. You're an amazing woman Naomi! Thank you for sharing this personal story in such a selfless way! Blessings & hugs to you xxx

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  2. Thanks for sharing Naomi.

    I am sure you will help someone. I completely understand your journey. Mine was similar.

    I was diagnosed with PND in July last year. The moment that is still with me today, is not be wanting to hurt any of my three kids, but in very clear moment when my head was telling to just end it for myself using a knife from the kitchen. It took all my power to stop myself from doing that.

    Thank you again for sharing your personal journey Naomi. The more we talk about our journeys the more chance of someone else seeking help before it is to late. xx

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  3. As you know, I suffered PND (almost PNP) as well, and I think that this video, especially from someone as inspiring as you, who went on to have 5 more children!!!! will help more than just one person.

    You've proved that it can happen to anyone, but we CAN get better, if we reach out for help and accept it. I'm so proud of you for putting this up. I know it wasn't easy for you.

    xxxx

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story, Naomi xx

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  5. You are amazing Naomi and one of many women how I look up to and am inspired by, it takes a lot of courage to talk about this and Im so proud that you have.

    It's like you said it's lonely being a mum sometimes x

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  6. Thank you so much for sharing Naomi. It must have been so hard for you to talk about this.
    You are amazing.
    x

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  7. thank you for being brave enough to share this

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  8. Naomi, thank you for being so honest and open with us. I so appreciate your blog. It is always good to know you are not alone, and for you to go on and have 5 more kids just shows that you can get past it.
    Sarah

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  9. Thank you for sharing your story Naomi. I can relate to your story so much since my experience was similar with it being my second child and she was just the opposite of my 1st. I just assumed it would be the same experience and I think that was such a shock - not knowing how to mother this child after being an "experienced mother".

    Big hugs to you - I know how draining it can be to share your story. 6 years on and I still cry when I talk about it with other women. It is important to share though so thank you!

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  10. Thankyou for sharing Naomi, it touched a chord within me to take some time for myself and make sure I'm ok. Thankyou xx

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  11. Naomi thank you for sharing this and being so open. You are an inspiration to me. x

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  12. Thanks so much for your support ladies, this topic needs to be talked about so much more x

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  13. Oh thankyou, Sweetheart, you huge-hearted soul. I am so proud of you for so generously sharing your experience. It's a road I'm all too familiar with. Time for an update on my PND post (http://www.lifeonplanetbaby.com/2010/11/my-life-with-3-children-under-5-and.html), nearly a year on. J x

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  14. Thank you for sharing Naomi. I know it is not easy and it does need to be discussed more.

    I think many mothers think it won't happen to them and then are scared or embarrassed if it does.

    xx

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  15. So well said Naomi. I wish more people would talk about it. In hindsight I am surenow I had post natal depression. You are very brave for sharing your vlog. x

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  16. Thank you for sharing your story. The more stories out there about ante and post natal depresion the more women we can reach and help.

    I personally had support and help from PANDA. They are specialised in ante and post natal depression.

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  17. It's true, PND can be overcome, with the right support and knowledge for families of those suffering PND. I guess I was lucky in a sense that I knew something was wrong from the get-go when I had my first child. Well, how can you not know when you felt like drowning your child and ending your life. I managed to overcome it when I went out and met other mums but had PND again with my 2nd child. This time I opted to go for counselling. And am happy to say it helped a lot.

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  18. Thankyou so very much for sharing. This topic is something that so many people still do not understand, or want to understand.

    I had PND and it was not detected & treated until 5 years after having my daughter, I believe that the depression affected the way I bonded with my daughter (There was a lack of bonding) and as a result I see big differences between the relationship I have with my daughter & the relationship I have with my son. (Things just come easily/naturally with my son, but I feel like I have to work very hard to even have simple conversations with my daughter) :(

    I do remember, on the 3rd day after her delivery, I was in tears for the entire day and the nurse told me I was just having the "baby blues" and to snap out of it, becasue I needed to feed my baby. I believe that from that moment on, whenever I felt sad (all the time) I thought I was just having the "baby blues" and I needed to "get over it".
    I wish I had known more about PND way back then, once again thankyou for sharing xx

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  19. You truly amaze me Naomi. I am completely blown away by your honesty. So so many women have been in that EXACT moment but would never admit it.

    The strength it took to say that is undeniable. I have always respected you.. This just cements that feeling.

    This Vlog will help so many... That is what I love the most is that you put your own worries of judgment aside and told the truth! I wish more people would do that.. The world would be a better place!

    Lots of love to you!! XX

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  20. Thank you, thank you, thank you, new follower to your blog and a PND/Depression sufferer, it is hard to admit we need help but we all do, medication is my friend now, thanks again

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  21. Thank you for sharing this. Your honesty is so refreshing. I talk openly about having PND but I have always shied away from mentioning any negative thoughts I have had which I have felt ashamed of.

    I just love that you are willing to put it out there in order to help someone else. You are amazing.

    x

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  22. Just read and listend to your post Naomi, thank you. I've also suffered PND and my story, like many others, is very similar to yours. I also have plans to talk about my PND and subsequent bouts of depression on my Blog, it's something that does need to be talked about more than it is. But as a society we talk about it more than when I had it 13 years ago (although feels like yesterday!).

    Again thanks for sharing a very personal journey.

    Best Wishes
    Leanne

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  23. Thank you for sharing Naomi! My two are 14mths apart and it is so hard. I had PND after the birth of my daughter (2nd bub) and for me it was about the loss of my individuality as well. We had moved to the town I grew up in to be closer to my parents, but that meant isolating ourselves as I no longer knew anyone there. I think things would have been very different had we stayed in Canberra, which is where we have now moved back to. My daughter is now 2 and I believe I have only recently moved past the PND and am happier with myself, my family and my life because of it.

    Highly recommend seeking help if you feel something is not right - its so easy for a Dr to say that its just baby blues, but what if its not and you do need help? Better to ask then to struggle alone! It definitely does not make you a failure as a mother.

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  24. Watching this had me in tears. I've never had PND, but gosh, I've had days where I've felt like loosing my shiz and throwing my kids at something.

    Thanks for being brave and talking out about it.

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  25. You are a special soul my friend I felt your story and want to say how proud I am of you to share it here with us it helps knowing we are not alone when we have lovely friends like you. Enjoy your day and thank you.

    Always Wendy

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  26. Naomi, thank you so much for sharing your blog, I know you will increase awareness and provide further insight into PND. You have been so brave. I am in the process of setting up a service to support mums surviving PND and this post only supports my reasoning that it so needed. Jo ox

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  27. Hugs to you babe xxxx

    Thanks for sharing your story... xxxx

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  28. I'm sitting here in tears listening to you, because I can relate so clearly. It DOES need to be talked about more. There needs to be more support for new mums - and by new mums I mean mums with newborns, not first time mums. It took 18 months for me to get a diagnosis. Better late than never, I suppose. But once we know, we can start to move forward and heal. there is NO SHAME in asking for help, and acknowledging something is not right. Thanks for sharing, I hope mums reading who may not be coping get the strength from this post to go get help.

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  29. Thank you for sharing ..... it's appreciated more than you know. I have suffered with depression for as long as I can remember.... since a young age. When I had my first 2 children I didn't connect the dots very well but had post natal depression which was only recognised with my 3rd child. I went on to have 2 more and it go worse with each pregnancy. I don't think unless you have experienced post natal depression that you can possibly realise how debilitating it can be. It's so important to ask for help and get help and no one should ever be ashamed of doing that. Having Post Natal Depression helped me to see and understand what other mothers were going through.

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  30. I'm not a mother, but I've been battling with depression for 8 years now. I was improving at first, but then ended up in an abusive relationship and it all went back downhill and I've been really struggling to climb out of this hole.

    It's awful to say, but people do criticise, whether you're a mother or not, and I think you're very brave for sharing your story. I've RTed because I think it's an important message to share, that it is okay to ask for help, that you aren't alone, and that it is possible to pull through it.

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  31. Thanks so much for sharing Naomi, it is certainly a tricky subject emotionally but so important to be discussed. I was lucky enough to have an obstetrician that recognised first signs of PND days aftey my eldest daughter was born (I was unable to sleep, felt twitchy and anxious and had a history of depression) and recommended I start seeing a phsychologist who specialises in that area as quickly as possible. So I ended up doing so with my 2 week old in hand which really helped. It helped so much to have someone to talk to candidly about how I was feeling. I was also able to call on her as soon as I felt things slipping again. It was an ongoing process. I remember going to my first mothers group meeting and feeling so out of place - like people must be criticising my parenting abilities, etc. Many of those girls went on to become great friends of mine!

    I am now on regular medication which has been hard to accept and few people know, but I know ultimately I need to make sure I'm OK, so in turn my kids will have the mum they deserve. I still find it hard to admit the depression, but have recently been making a concerted effort to 'fess up' about my experiences when it's being discussed to start normalising it. It's the only way the stigma will stop and women will realise they are not along.

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  32. Very brave post Naomi and thoughtful of you to put it out there as it might just save some lives. I enjoyed listening and I wish you abundance in every area of your life.

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