Tuesday, November 15, 2011

5 ways to have happy days


Everyone has days where they feel terrible. Where you wake up and know that today is going to be a hard day to get through no matter what you try to do. On days like this it hardly seems worth getting out of bed and dragging yourself through the day. But, we do and we have to, so here are my 5 tips for happy days when things are just not going right.

1. Control what you can control * Often I find I feel terrible and overwhelmed when there seems to be an abundance of things going on in my life that I cannot control. Such as appointments, the children's choices, the amount of washing I have in my home, the actions of other's and bills! If I spend my day focusing on only those situations I quickly become depressed. Instead I chose to focus on what I can control and I feel happier. I can control my attitude, what I chose to wear, when I chose to do the washing, what I am going to eat, what fun I am going to have for that day and if I want to take some time out for me. I find I end up having a happy day.

2. Change your scenery * When I am having a busy day and feel low I always fit in a way to change my scenery. I get out of the house, I go for a walk, I pop into the library, I pop into a shoe shop, I drop in to see a friend or I even just go sit out in the backyard. A change in scenery helps to expand your view of life and getting fresh air refreshes our mind and spirit. A change of view = a happy day.

3. Wear your happiness * Call me shallow or whatever you want but when I am struggling with feeling good I turn to my wardrobe and jewellery to help me have a happy day. For me it is the quickest way to uplift me and help me feel a little better about myself. If I have a busy day of appointments that I really do not feel like going to, such as the doctors, dentist etc. I often wear something that makes me feel special. I sit in the doctor's office humming away to myself looking at the super cute shoes I am wearing or loving the bracelet I have on and even sit there and say, "You know what Naomi, you am looking awesome in this dress today". Hey! If no-one else is going to tell you, then why not tell yourself!

4. Rock your day with music * One quick way to lift my spirits is through the use of music. I can be feeling absolutely depressed and having a woe is me kind of day and all I need to do to start to feel a little happier is to listen to a favourite song. I play it loud and I play a song I like, not a song the kids like, a song I like. I let myself feel the music, I dance in my kitchen, I move my body and I sing loudly. I have fun with it and before I know it I am feeling so much happier and ready to tackle whatever needs to be done. Try it, I think you will find it works!

5. Accomplish a task * I have days where I feel like I am getting nowhere, where I feel like I am making no difference and it seems as if all my efforts have been in vain. On days like this, I know I need to accomplish a task to feel like I am useful, I am of worth and I am making a difference. This may sound crazy but I find myself a simple task to accomplish and I personally making a big deal of it. It could be as simple as, I cleaned out the car, I emptied all of the bins, I straightened the bathroom towels, I replied to 5 emails, I cooked dinner before 10am, I planned my week, I wrote a blog post etc. When I have completed my task, I then congratulate myself. I stop and admire my handiwork, I remind myself I have used my time wisely and made a difference. I appreciate my own efforts and and praise myself. As I mentioned before, Hey! If no-one else is going to tell you, then why not tell yourself!

So if you are reading this and you are having one of those bad, terrible, crappy days, I hope you will try a few of my tips to add a little happiness and sunshine to your day. Rock on ladies, rock on!

13 comments:

  1. WOW !! Reading this I felt like you had entered my own mind and pulled out each thing that, deep down I know I need to do when I am having 'one of those days' but don't always turn to.

    I whole heartedly agree with each of your 5 points and find that they definitely help.

    Number 2 in particular as I did that this morning. My sister is getting married in less than 5 weeks and has just had a falling out with the dressmaker so now we all need to go shopping for dresses - just a minor detail, so whilst chatting to her about it I sat out in our front garden instead of the lounge and it made me feel so calm with the fresh air!!

    BRILLIANT TIPS NAOMI !! xx

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  2. You know you are a wonder, Naomi. I wish you lived next door. I could never be unhappy with you as my neighbour.

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  3. Ditto to jayne ecxactly. I have literally been saying to myself this month - "put on some music woman!" as I KNOW it lifts my mood yet here I sit at the computer for hours on end blogging and such in solitude getting cranky.

    Off to put on my upbeat mix!

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  4. So glad you are finding it helpful ladies. I am currently rockin away to a nice tune and having an awesome day. N x

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  5. This is a great list Naomi! I know these things but often have to remind myself of them when I'm having a bad day

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  6. Great tips, Naomi. I know I do some of them sporadically, but usually after I've already entered the "I'm freaking out" zone. It'd be better to consciously be aware of my arsenal before I get to wars with myself.

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  7. I love these tips! I try to do some of these as well, but I need to more actively employ them.

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  8. Hey Naomi

    I am an ardent fan of yours from a far away land, India. You are an impressive personality who leads a very balanced and controlled life eventhough you have a big family. Truly a happiness seeker and I try to match your footsteps in my life too.

    Reading your blog in the morning surely uplifts my mood for the rest of the day, and just because I feel happy the positive vibes in turn gets reflected in my home too. Such is a magic of your writing. very encouraging!

    Thanks for spreading happiness in my household :)


    - Vaishali

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  9. I think it was fate that you wrote this and I read it today! I woke up with a terrible migrane and wasted most of the day in bed. When i got up i felt so down that the day had gone and I felt so upset. So i lit a few candles, put music on, wore my pretty jewellery and put the air-con on and I am feeling great now!

    then i read your happiness tips, printed them out and pasted them in my journal! love it!
    alice x

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  10. Totally agree with #2. Some days when the kids are making me tear my hair out, the house is a mess, the phone won't stop ringing- I throw everyone in the pram, turn my iPod all the way up in my ears, and we walk to and then spend a few hours in the park.

    Everyone is much more zen by the time we get back, and I know my husband much prefers a relaxed and happy wife than a spotless house.

    Love this tips, thanks!

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  11. Love all of these Naomi. Sometimes it is just about looking at things a little differently and focusing on whatever we need to in order to lift our spirits.and there is nothing materialistic about feeling good in a new dress, necklace or killer pair of shoes!

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  12. These are some great ideas to overcome a dull day.

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  13. Thanks Naomi, I needed this, I've been feeling a bit down the last couple of weeks. I've taken this week off from blogging to just stop a bit.

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