Monday, August 29, 2011

Cherish your cherubs project: REMEMBER a special moment

If you are just dropping by my blog, every Monday for the next couple of weeks I am running a Cherish your Cherubs project here on my blog. A project to help us appreciate and adore our children a little more and a way to record and remember them in our lives.

I don't know about you but I totally loved all of the posts that were linked up last week. What gorgeous, wonderful and inspiring cherubs you all have. Your words were so heart felt and it was a pleasure to have a sneak peak into your lives and your hearts.

This week the theme and topic is REMEMBER. It is to spend some time remembering a special moment that relates to your cherubs. A time that touched your heart and helped you to feel closer to your children. It could be:

* your birth story
* a treasured memory of them when they were little
* a great achievement they made
* something you observed them doing
* a first achievement they reached
* a quiet moment you had together

So here is what I would love to share with you.

Nathan - One moment that always stands out in my mind was the day that Nathan decided that he was going to take 100,000 steps in one day. To say I was shocked was an understatement. He set himself this goal as part of the Global Children's Challenge and as a mother I was worried that he really would not make it. I kept preparing myself of what I would say to lift his spirits when he got to the end of the day and had not made it. Well, shame on me. He proved me wrong and you can read about it HERE. That boy can set his mind to anything he wants in life and has the determination and inner strength to achieve it. He. Blows. Me. Away.

When Nathan was born I was really surprised to have a son. I always thought in my mind that I would mainly have have 6 girls and then have a son or something. When I had a son born as my second child it kind of threw me. A boy! I was not ready or prepared to raise a boy! How wonderful it has been to have Nathan as my oldest son. He has always been kind, always been very motivated and just brilliant with what he can do with his mind. He has amazed, astounded me, and taken my breath away so many times on what he can achieve and with how intelligent and insightful he can be. He has helped me strap on my running shoes to keep up with him as he has blazed his own path in life and I have loved every moment of it.

Remembering this awesome meal he made for us!

Harmony - One moment that always stands out in my mind with Harmony was shortly after she was born. I had an Emergency Caesarian with Harmony and therefore was not able to immediately have her with me. As I was stitched up and made ready to go to my room she was taken away and cared for elsewhere. During this time she was not fed and so when they took me to my hospital room she was quickly brought into the room for me to feed. I remember really clearly laying down in the bed, opening up my gown to start to feed her, moving her close to me and being shocked that Harmony with speed and natural instinct, without any help or guidance, opened wide her mouth and latching onto to me and started drinking perfectly. She knew right away what she wanted, she knew what to do and went head on into it! At that moment I remember feeling that this is what her personality was going to be like and that we were in for a fun ride.

We love that every year we have a special day to help appreciate Harmony even more besides her birthday. Here in Australia when we celebrate Harmony Day, in the Ellis house, we also celebrate and appreciate our own Harmony. They day is about celebrating that Everyone Belongs, which means all Australians are a welcome part of our country, regardless of their background. It's also about community participation, inclusiveness and respect – celebrating the different cultures that make Australia a great place to live.

We use this day to celebrate our own personalities and differences as a large family. With Harmony being child number 4 - right in the middle with 3 children above her and 3 children below her it is great to have a day to remember that we are all unique, we are all special and we are all different. So often I feel that she can miss out on attention and this day helps us all remember how awesome she really is.

Celebrating Harmony Day at school.

Eli - One moment that stands out in my mind with Eli was the day I felt inspired to save him in our swimming pool. Kind of a weird moment to share but it is etched in my mind forever. As a family we swim in our pool for many months of the year. Our whole family had been in the pool having an awesome time and all the children were safe and well when I decided to get out of the pool to help Liberty.

I went inside to a room right next to the pool and helped her get changed. As I was finishing the task of putting on her nappy, I had a clear thought/impression in my mind to look outside at Eli in the pool. I thought to myself, he is alright, I will go out and check him when I finish putting Liberty's pants on. As I started to put her pants on, once again I had a clear thought/impression in my mind to look outside at Eli in the pool. This time I decided to listen.

I looked up and over at Eli in the pool, surrounded by all of the rest of our family, which is lots of people, to see him face down in the water. He was wearing a life jacket at the time I have to add, but he had somehow lost his balance and was fighting and struggling and could not lift his face out of the water. Lets just say that it was one of those times in my life where I actually moved like lightning and I ran and jumped in the pool and got him out of there as fast as I could. I had no idea how long he had been like that and was Oh! SO Thankful that after a little spluttering and coughing and crying that he was perfectly fine. I KNOW that those impressions where sent to me from a loving Heavenly Father and I am so grateful and thankful every day that I listened to that prompting and impression.

Eli is so loving and funny. He loves technology and together we have made our way through all of the Angry Birds levels. It has been our little thing that we have done together and so often I remember how we sat close together, we praised each other, we got frustrated, we kept trying and we made it to the end. He has an Angry Bird gift I tell you! Not the best gift to have in this life but he sure knows how to fling those birds.

Building his own Angry Birds game out of blocks.

Liahona - One thing I always love to remember about Liahona is her gift for dancing. As a young girl when people would come over she would dance for them and they would be amazed. She has an natural freestyle dance ability and just makes up awesome dances on the spot. I would simply play any song and she would just go for it. I remember one day playing the song Voodoo Child, which has a little more of a rock beat, and sitting back and watching her as a little girl dressed in a ballet tutu absolutely rock on hard to that song. I laughed my head off through the whole routine as she is one cool rock chick!

I remember when she was born I was shocked that she had a full head of black hair. With Chelsea being born with red hair and Nathan having very little hair blonde it was so great to have a massive head of dark hair to love and adore. It stuck up high in the hair and on many days she looked like she had an Elvis hair style. As a 5 week or 6 week old baby people would often ask me if I had styled her hair. Ummm....NO! It just naturally went that way.

Liahona loves to dress up, to perform and I so love it when she comes to me smiling to give me a hug. She is a delight to have as a daughter and so funny to observe when she gets in one of her drama moods around our house. We all just laugh and have a hard time holding our tongues on all the hilarious things we could tease her about. Alright...I have to admit I am not very good at holding my tongue!

Dressing up for me to take her picture. So gorgeous.

Chelsea - When remembering Chelsea I always, always remember the day she shaved her head for the World's Greatest Shave. I can still clearly hear the roar of the kids at school, the shy smile on her face and the shaking hands of her teacher as she shaved her head. I was emotional, I was teary and I was so proud of this incredible decision that she had made herself. You can check it out HERE.

I also remember how much of a great help to me she was when I was pregnant with all of our other children. I remember when she was 5 years and I was pregnant with my fourth child Harmony. I was very sick and spent most of my days in bed throwing up and my other three children had run of the house. It was very hard for me to walk into our kitchen as it would set me off into a long throwing up episode every time I went near it.

During this time Chelsea would go into the kitchen and get out the bread, the butter and the honey or vegemite and very happily make three sandwiches for everyone to eat for lunch or for a snack until I could get to a state where I could enter the room. She always did an awesome job and it was such a great help. She was also excellent at reporting to me at different times during the day. She would tell me such things as...Nathan is filling up the toilet with toilet paper or Liahona is putting things in the DVD player and I would pull myself out of bed and go sort out the situation.  I am so thankful for her kindness and caring towards the rest of our family and towards me.

Awesome big sister to all of our cherubs.

Liberty - This little bundle of spunk has provided me with many wonderful memories. She has been such a delight to have as my last child and we have an awesome time hanging out together whilst all the other kids are at school. With two big brothers above her she has pushed herself to keep up with them in just about everything that they do. She sees herself equal to them in all the activities that they do has even managed to learn to do somethings before they have.

One skill that she taught herself early on was to be able to swim. As I mentioned earlier we spend a lot of time in our pool as a family. As the youngest child she spends a great deal of time watching her older brothers and sisters learning how to do things. This allows her to observe and see how to do a skill and because everyone else is doing it she has no fear to give it a go. I have strict rules in our home with the pool. No one goes in the pool area unless they are wearing a life jacket or they know how to swim really well. I am always around when they enter the pool area to make sure everyone is safe. The kids hate waiting for me to be there but safety comes first in our house.

One day last year one of my older kids opened the pool gate before I gave my word that it was alright and all of my cherubs ran and jumped in the pool. Liberty stood up, followed them and jumped right into the pool before I had the chance to stop her. I had not yet put her life jacket on. Lets just say once again that this was another one of those times that I moved like lightening and rushed to the side of the pool to get her out. Imagine my surprise when I found her swimming all by herself as a two year old around our pool. I was so shocked and stunned. She did not need the life jacket after all. She had taught herself to swim before one of her brothers and I this is what she looks like swimming below:

Sam - This child. What can I say. He has given me so many heart attacks over his short life I just do not even know where to start. Sam is the sort of child who has to touch and taste everything. Amazingly he is still alive today and has no really bad scars to prove what trouble he has gotten himself into.

One delightful memory I have of Sam was when he told me he was going to learn to ride a bike. I told him to wait and that we would take him out on the weekend somewhere to practise and that Matt would help him out on what to do. Sam decided that this was too long to wait. He wanted to learn to ride a bike then and now. As I went about my daily activities during the rest of the week I would see Sam out in our backyard every night after school trying to learn to ride a bike.

Imagine my surprise when I walked through our kitchen and saw Liahona and Sam with his bike and Matt's toolbox spread all over our kitchen table as a work bench where they were busily taking Sam's training wheels off of his bike. I tell you, my kids don't wait for anything. Sigh!

So after that task was done they then headed out into the backyard once again where Liahona helped Sam get his balance right and very shortly afterwards learn to ride a bike with no training wheels. I was so impressed that he just went ahead and taught himself. That he roped in his sister to help him and felt that he had enough skill and ability to learn this task without the help of his parents. We never did take him out to teach him, Matt never had to spend hours coaching him...he just went ahead and did it. As much as I am proud of him I am also sad we were not there to help him. Sob!

That face and smile has saved his from so much trouble. Lucky he is cute.

Well, if you have made it this far down. I am impressed. Thanks so much for making it to the end of my remembering my cherubs. They are an awesome bunch of kids and I feel so blessed to be the mother of them all. Now to share with you what I would love for you to do for Week 3. Interview.

The reason why I would love you to interview your cherubs is to take the time to listen to them. To sit down, to give them all your attention (as much as it is possible as a parent and a mother!) and to chat to them, to ask them questions to listen to what there little minds or big minds are thinking on certain topics.

To try to find out how they are feeling. As a mother some days I get so busy trying to keep my house running that I forget to pay attention to how my children are feeling. I some times forget that they have feelings. I know how I always feel but I do not stop enough to see how they are feeling. So this task is to try to connect with them and to try to do more listening than talking. If you are like me...this is going to be a difficult task!

So when interviewing your cherubs you could ask them:

*What do they love?
*What makes them happy?
*What makes them feel sad?
*What makes them feel angry?
*What makes them scared?

If you are feeling really brave...ask them:

*How they think you are going as a parent or mother?
*Is there is anything they would like you to do better or more of?

It may surprise you what they have to say. I cannot wait to share with you what answers I received in my house. Always an eye opener when I ask my cherubs these type of questions and I love that they are honest with me.

Now for the fun part. Time to link up your Week 2. Remember moments you have to share. This can be a new blog post or an older blog post. Anything that helps us to learn a little more about your cherubs or family. I will leave the link open for the rest of the week incase you want to link up with us here. I hope that if you do decide to link up a post that you will take the time to read and comment on a few others to spread the blog love. If you are just finding out about this project you are most welcome to join in at any time. You do not have to start from week 1.

I am so looking forward to reading what you have to share and to seeing what is in your heart in relation to your cherubs. Thanks so much for joining in.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

I am a Mormon and Australian Mormon Blogs

Most of you who read my blog will know that I am a Mormon.
I belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

My faith is very important to me and has given me a great foundation for raising our family.

I love to read blogs by women of my faith. They inspire me and I feel a connection with them because I know we have the same beliefs and values. I love to see how they are raising their families and living the gospel in their homes. I also love and respect women from other faiths and so admire the good they are doing to uplift and edify so many others.

Here in Australia having a blog is becoming more and more popular. They are popping up everywhere. I have enjoyed finding so many wonderful blogs in my blogging journey and have been on the look out for some more Australian Mormon Blogs. So to help me find some more I thought I would just write a blog post about it and put out a call to see if anyone else knows some great blogs I should be reading.

I know a few popular Mormon blogs:

Toni Coward from Make it Perfect
Kate Conklin from Kate Conklin Designs
Amelia Sliedrich Stitch 'n' Bits
Kylie Ofiu from Kylie Ofiu
Felicity Ashton from Bits and Pieces

So my lovely readers...

What Australian Mormon Blogs do you know about?

P.S ~ You can check out  my

**I am also guest posting over at Ah! The Possibilities today on Mothers as Leaders if you want to check that out.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Cherish your Cherubs Project: RECORD your childrens life

First of all, I have to say a BIG thank you to all of YOU wonderful Seven Cherubs readers who have given me such great support and feedback on the start of my Cherish Your Cherubs Project. I love that so many of you have emailed me and left comments to say that you are joining in.

Thanks for brightening my day with each message and for your encouragement!

Today is the first day of linking up for the project. The assignment for this week was to Record your cherubs life so far or even what they are like right now, this very moment and to cherish every little detail about them. To be more mindful, to be more appreciating of them and to simply adore them. If you have forgotten what Week 1. Record was about - you can check it out here. So here we go with a little taste of what I have been recording:

To start with I took some current family profile pictures. On Sunday morning before heading off to church I called every one individually into the hall way and took pictures of them as they were at that moment to capture what sort of mood they were in and to have an 'as is' shot. So here is what our family is looking like right now:
As you can see some family members were not in the mood to have their picture taken (Matt even looks a little shy which is so far from the truth in real life!!) and I included them just how they were anyway to remember it. Keeping it real around here is how I like it and how I want to remember each of them. As you can see we are a whole family of blondes and even though my kids look the same in many ways they really are very different.

Of course I think all my children are gorgeous, brilliant and delightful. They are angelic in so many ways and bring me so much happiness and joy. They make me smile, they make me laugh but they also make me mad and make me cry. I love that they are each growing up into little adults and I am treasuring the short time I have with them as children.

Here on my blog I have decided to share with you a little snapshot of what they look like and a little honesty in how they are currently expressing and developing in personality. I also decided to include Matt and I while we were at it (Chelsea put mine together just so you know!) for some fun and here is a little taste of what we are like:

What a mix we are as a family! We are very varied in our loves and characteristics. Which is just the way I like it. Now to share with you what I would love for you to do for Week 2. Remember.

This week I would love for you to spend some time remembering a special moment that relates to your cherubs. A time that touched your heart and helped you to feel closer to your children. It could be:

* your birth story
* a treasured memory of them when they were little
* a great achievement they made
* something you observed them doing
* a first achievement they reached
* a quiet moment you had together

Elisha shared on my facebook page that her cherubs love to hear about their birth and what they were like as babies or the age their siblings are now. They also love to watch home movies of themselves as little ones and when they do this as a family is always helps her to appreciate her cherubs a little more.

Natalie recommended looking back on old photos to remind yourself how quickly time passes. Then look at them now and realise how incredibly lucky you are to be sharing their life journey with them. A blessing indeed.

So this week I hope you will dig out your journals, your photo albums and home movies and will spend some time remembering how wonderful your cherubs or family members are. If you have already blogged or recorded a great remembering moment I would love for you to link it up with us next week.

Now onto the fun part. Time to link up your Week 1. Record moments you have to share. This can be a new blog post or an older blog post. Anything that helps us to learn a little more about your cherubs or family. I will leave the link open for the rest of the week incase you want to link up with us here. I hope that if you do decide to link up a post that you will take the time to read and comment on a few others to spread the blog love. I am so looking forward to reading what you have to share and to seeing what is in your heart in relation to your cherubs. Thanks so much for joining in.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Cherish your Cherubs PROJECT

One of the reasons I have a blog is to help me remember to cherish my cherubs.
To have a place where I can record and remember great memories we have created together.

So to help me appreciate them a little more I have started a new Seven Cherubs project:
Over the next six weeks I will post every Monday an idea for you to blog about or to do at home in relation to your children. Kind of a little reminder to take some time out during your week to appreciate what wonderful treasures you have in your life. I know most of you already do this in your lives as you are such wonderful mothers but I wanted to blog about it and to make it a project.

I want to be more mindful, I want to be more appreciating and I want to spend more time cherishing.

I have also noticed that some women find it difficult coming up with ideas of what to blog about or some women at home are often so busy they forget to stop and appreciate what wonderful blessings children are. With that in mind I am hoping that you might want to join in and come link up with me every Monday. I am going to give you a sneak peak at what the topic keywords will be about. See below:

Every Monday I will share what I have done in relation to the weekly topic and give you some ideas for the next week on what you can do.  So today is just to introduce the project and to give you some ideas for starting off with Week 1. Record. Here is what I would love for you to do:

This week I want you to blog or write about your cherubs or even yourself or a friend or another family member (some family history maybe?) if you do not have children and to record it somewhere. You could start a new notebook, start a scrap book, use your personal journal or write on your blog. Just find a place to keep a record of your children.

I would love you to record what they look like at this current moment. To remember how gorgeous they are, the ways their eyes sparkle, their smile, their soft hair and what a treasure they are. You can also capture pictures of tantrums, screaming, crying and sad faces. Some of my most treasured pictures are of my kids screaming as I remember the tantrums they used to throw and now that they are past that stage, (well...sort of!), it makes me smile to know we got through that together.

If you do not feel comfortable sharing it on your blog you could take a snippet of what they look like. Some ideas are: just a picture of their hands or toes, a picture of the back of them, or even a picture of their shadow to remember them by.

Some suggestion of what you could write about are:

1. What are your cherubs interests?
2. What do they like?
3. What do they dislike?
4. What is their favourite food?
5. What is their favourite game to play?
6. What is their favourite saying?
7. What song do they love the most?
8. What is their favourite television show?
9. What is their favourite book?
10. Who is their favourite friend?

One great idea that I have seen of recording images and interests is below:

Or if you are thinking of doing something fun you so need to check out Tiff and her family HERE.

So in the next week I hope you will take the time to record some impressions about your cherubs and that it will help you to take some time out to pay attention to what they like, what they dislike and where they are currently at. I am not very good at keeping an updated photo album or scrap book so I am hoping that this helps me to get my act together and to record where my cherubs are right now.

I would love to know if you are joining in with me on this project and would love you to please leave a comment below to tell me. Next Monday I will open up the link for you to add your blog posts to and I so look forward to reading and learning about your wonderful cherubs.

You can view them all here:

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

How to go shopping with seven children

Every so often when I mention I go shopping with seven children - people freak out! 
How is it possible? What do you do? Why would you want to do that?
Are the most common questions I get asked.

So I thought I would share with you how I make it work.

1. The invite.
It is not often that I go shopping with all seven of my children. Mostly, I take 2 or 3 with me or even just 1 to the shops. Always before I go shopping with all of my children I ask them this question:

"I need to go to the shops. I want to take all of you with me. 
Do you want to come to the shops with me and can you stay with me the whole time?"

The older kids know what I mean when I ask that question and for the younger kids I expand on it. I get down on their level and explain that if they want to come to the shops with me it means they need to listen to what I say, they need to stay with me at all times and I need to be able to see them at all times. If they are not able to do that, we will not go and we will stay home. I wait for another time to purchase what I need. Most things are not an emergency.

Lucky for me, my kids love going to the shops and it is rare that anyone will say No. If someone does say No then I see how many other kids have said Yes and have a talk to that one child. I explain that they are the only one who desire to stay home and 6 against 1 normally wins out on a change of mind.

2. The Preparation
Taking seven kids to the shops is an expedition. Rarely do we all just jump in the car and rush out to the shops to grab something. Before we go, I check that everyone has shoes on, is dressed properly, has been to the toilet and has had something to eat and drink. I so dislike getting hassled for food and drink when we are out. My rule is if you cry and whinge for food and drink - you get none. It is a hard lesson to learn. Let me just say that if you watch six other kids eating food and you are the only one not eating food because you hassled mum - you learn your lesson pretty darn fast!

I rarely take any supplies with me. I normally just grab my purse and go. We are past the nappy bag stage and every so often I might take some snacks from home. Normally we just go to to the shops get what we need, have a quick look around and come home.

3. The Reminder
Once I have all seven kids sitting in the car with seat belts on, I know they are trapped and have my attention so I give them the reminder talk. It kind of goes like this:

"Just wanted to remind you that we are going out to the shops to get ... and ... please do not hassle me about toys, and food and drink. If you like something you can show me, I like seeing what you are interested in and I will check the price and think about it. That does not mean we are going to buy it. Please remember you need to stay with me at all times, I need to see where you are and if you do need to go to the toilet - tell me right away! Does everyone understand what I am saying??"

Then when all the kids have said yes, I start the car and off we go!

4. The Shopping Expedition
The first thing I always do is head straight for what we need to get. I do not allow myself to get distracted incase something goes wrong. With seven kids...all sorts of things can go wrong! Haha!

Then when we have what we need we can have a look around and enjoy ourselves. We always go looking in the toy section...with looking being the key word here. It normally involves my children testing out as many products as they can...they are a little hands it means supervising that.

Can you see Chelsea is holding a Diva bag? Yes I took all seven of my children into a jewellery store. They are very well behaved generally and I am that crazy!!!

Sometimes I let my children run a little way ahead of me to kind of give them the feeling that they are exploring the shops as well and to have a little fun. I do not mind as long as I can see them and it often means they are trying to do something funny, like the time we found Harmony standing like this:

If my children are really well behaved we often look in more shops and stay a little longer. Sometimes I like to reward them with a treat and one of the best places I like to stop at to do so is a Bakers Delight where I pick up a finger bun for everyone. They are often not too expensive and I find it fills them up. Of course after our family has stopped by they are normally cleaned out of finger buns for a while!

For me shopping with seven children is not a relaxing event. It involves constantly counting heads, being aware of where each child is and of staying focused on what needs to be accomplished. We do love to go out together though and often have a great time chatting about things that we see, wants and needs that we have for our family and it gives the children things to look forward to for birthdays and Christmas that they see in the stores.

5. Praise
Always, always on the way home in the car I praise my children for how well they have behaved. I try to pick out small experiences that I saw to highlight. I might say, 'Nathan thank you so much for keeping Sam and Eli close by me' or 'Liberty thank you for holding Chelsea's hand'. I find it sends us all home with a good feeling and helps my children know that they can be good so that we can go out again.

On this such expedition as we were all seated having our finger buns a lady came up and asked me if all of those children were mine. I of course replied, yes they are, to which she stated that she was so impressed that I had them so well dressed and so clean.

It constantly amazes me what others think a family with seven children should be like. I think they assume that we are scruffy and messy and that there is constant bad behaviour. We do have days like that in our home and even out at the shops...but most days we are just a normal family doing normal family things...we just do it with bigger numbers.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

when to have a baby

{Baby Harmony}

As a mother of many children I am often asked how I decided when it was right to have a baby.  When I knew it was the right timing and what process I went through in working it out. To the surprise of most people, we planned to have all of our children. Except the twins of course - that was a real surprise!

Recently, I was cleaning out our filing cabinet and found a list I had written at one stage when Matt and I were trying to decide if it was right for us to have another baby. It was written for Harmony, our fourth child. With three children in three years, it was a difficult decision for us to make to have our fourth.

After the birth of my first child, each time I started to feel the desire, or more like the longing to have another child, I would write out a list. A kind of Pro and Con list to get my thoughts clear on how our family situation was, how my personal feelings were regarding the decision and how Matt was feeling.

I found it to be really helpful to write things down on paper and to clear my mind so that I could then follow my heart. At this time of our lives with three children these are the items I listed:

My Pro's were:
I am currently feeling good.
I am feeling healthy.
Now is a good time in relation to summer.
(I hate being large during summer)
Kids will be close together.
I love children.
Supportive husband and family.
Liahona is nearly walking.
It is a great work to have children.

My Con's were:
Liahona is out of a high chair
I get sick.
I am tired.
Worried about effect on other children.
Harder to support Matt.
9 months is a long time.
The pain of giving birth.
I hate being pregnant.
I vomit.
I cannot cook dinner.
I will feel big, fat and ugly.
I will be emotional.
People will say things to me.
I cannot do much in the nine months.
Chelsea starts preschool.
My stomach will hurt.
I have to go to the toilet all the time.
I will cry all the time.
I hate stitches.
I will have 4 kids under 5.

When I first re-read this list, it so made me laugh. Now that I am looking back on it I so love my Con's list. All of those items I listed ended up being true and really happened. Just as I knew they would.

Those concerns were real for me and that is exactly what it was like. I felt yuck, threw up and was emotional and did cry a lot. Poor Matt, he supported me the whole way through and knew I was not my 'normal' self. Actually, seeing as we only dated for 4 weeks, I don't think he really has ever really known me as my 'normal' self so it worked out fine. Haha!

For me, following my heart is just as important as following my mind when deciding to have a baby. Often as a mother my heart rules over what my mind is telling me to do and when I have followed how I felt, trusted my instincts, then everything has often worked out alright. Not easier, but alright.

We never looked at finances, we never waited until we had a home, we never waited until everything was perfect. We planned our family, we had faith and trusted that everything would work out alright.

We are so glad we did not wait until we had a home, until we had finished studying and felt a little more secure financially. If we had of done so, I would probably be having my first child right now. I am so glad I did not wait. I could not imagine my life without my seven cherubs.

For some women that is what is best for them {if they are able to have children}, to wait and to feel secure. For us, the timing was when we were young, when we were healthy and when the pro's heavily out weighted the con's in our heart.

I am not saying that every woman should to go out and have a baby immediately. What I am saying is that for me I have always seen being a mother as a privilege and a blessing. It takes sacrifice and commitment and hard work. Raising a child is an awesome responsibility. I do not take that responsibility lightly. I ponder, I pray and I work hard at being the best mother to my cherubs as I can be.

In deciding when to have a baby I especially looked at my emotional and mental state. If I could not handle or deal with what was to come, we would delay having children. There were certain times in our child bearing years that we did plan larger gaps between children.

I needed that time to recover, to restore and to rejuvenate myself.
If you need that time. Take it.

You will be a much better mother and wife because of it.
I am so, so thankful that I have the opportunity to be a mother.

My cherubs are teaching me so many skills, teaching me about unconditional love and helping me learn so much about myself. I am so glad we planned them into our life.

It has been seven of the best decisions we ever made.

Monday, August 1, 2011

mummy bloggers are inspiring women

On the weekend I attend the Nuffnang Blogopolis conference in Melbourne. It was a wonderful event and totally inspiring. I was so excited to be in a room with 300 other bloggers and friends. I was reminded once again that Mummy Bloggers are inspiring women.

Most of the attendees were women. Most of them were what I will loosely call: Mummy Bloggers.

We were all so excited to be there, we were like sponges and we soaked in as much information and inspiration as we could. After the event we were all dying to get onto our blogs and to make immediate changes and to be the best bloggers we can be.

As I sat in that room and looked around, I thought:

You know what: we are an awesome bunch!
We are motivated, we are intelligent and we are inspiring women.

We take blogging seriously. We desire to be better.
We want to help others, we want to be useful and we want to be successful.

We are a close knit group. We support each other.
We accept our differences, we embrace our differences and learn from our differences.

We delight in the success of others. We know it will help our success as well.
We love that we have a voice. We try to stay as unique to our own voice as we can.

We love our families but also love to nourish and nurture ourselves.
We are creative, we are designers, we are self publishers.

We love our readers, we want to know them better.
We work really hard on giving you great content.

One of the reasons I love going to Blog conferences is to connect with other bloggers in real life.
It is the one place I can talk blogging and not have strange looks directed my way.

It is lovely to be with other women who get what I am trying to do.
Who give me suggestions and give me guidance on how I can be better as a blogger.

{Lovely bloggers: 1. Norlin and Jodie 2. Becky and Cate 3. Kylie 4. Lisa}

Mummy bloggers are not women who sit at home on the computer all day.
We use technology to reach and touch as many people as we can.

We are organised. We plan and prepare to be as effective as we can.
We schedule tweets, we link up our social media sites and use our time wisely.

We often run a business as well as a blog. We have active minds.
We have a purpose behind what we do.

We research, we work hard and we love what we do!

{Great friends: 1. Marthese 2. Trish 3. Tina 4. Nathalie}

We want to make you laugh. We want to make you cry.
We want to forge our own way and we want to touch your heart.

We want to inform, inspire and interact with you.
We so appreciate you being part of our community and love your comments.

We make difficult decisions, we make mistakes, we try our best.
We are brave, we are generous and we want to enhance your life.

{Inspiring women: 1. Caitlin 2. Martine 3. Carly}

For me, the fact that ProBlogger Darren Rowse took the time to come speak to us, tells me that we are important, that we are making a difference and that mummy bloggers in Australia ROCK!

I have so many more things to learn about being a blogger. I love the journey I have been on and loved what I soaked up at the conference. There were so many women I wanted to take a picture with, who I was so happy to meet and who touched my heart.

Here are a few posts that I have enjoyed reading about the conference so far:

Cate's: 10 Things I learned at Blogopolis here
Corrie's: Top 50 things I learnt at blogopolis here
Bree's: Key points from the conference here
Megan's: Blogopolis scribblings here
Lisa's: 10 things you may not know about bloggers here
You can also check out Christie's slideshow on blogger burnout here

We also tried to break the world record by having the most bloggers do the Mexican wave here.
So. Much. Fun!! Thanks for the idea Lori!

Thanks so much Nuffnang team. I really enjoyed my day.