I am having one of those days where I feel like my bucket is empty.
Where I feel like I have nothing left to give.
The kids have drained me,
I feel exhausted from keeping up with the housework,
I am having trouble keeping up with the bills and school notices,
I am way behind on my emails,
I cannot keep enough food in the house,
I am having trouble finding time for me this week,
I feel like I am letting my friends down,
I am not getting enough sleep,
I am worn out,
tired and exhausted.
My bucket is empty.
I am empty.
On days like this I let everything go.
My priority becomes to fill my bucket, to fill me.
I start with a good cry.
I pull myself together and start to plan.
I put myself first.
I plan in one thing that I know will uplift me.
Everything else can just wait.
I do that one thing just for me.
I do it if we need food, I do it if the kids are crying and want my attention.
I do it to survive.
I enjoy it, I savour it and I allow myself to feel it.
I smile for a moment and I count my blessings.
Then I get right back to taking care of my family.
That one thing that was just for me - fills my bucket.
It gives me the strength to keep going.
It gives me a bucket full enough for others to drain.
If you have days like this:
What do you do to fill up your bucket?






























I crank up the music, light fluffy boppy songs that make me feel like dancing. Nothing slow. . I hope your bucket is soon filled to overflowing - life can be so draining and it is hard to remember to take that snippet of time to replenish ourselves. I am a blessing counter too, always trying to find the positive in any given situation. Tends to make life so much happier! Have a fabulous day...xx
ReplyDeleteGreat suggestions and I sure love my dancing to help me feel better. Keep counting those blessings - it makes a big difference. N x
DeleteYes yes yes! Reading this post, I could have been reading something I'd written myself!
ReplyDeleteI find leaving the kids with hubby and going to the gym works for me, or having a long hot shower, or even taking the kids out to have coffee with a friend.
I've been amazed at how you manage to accomplish so much - you are such a giver - giving to others. Your children and hubby are so blessed to have you.
Praying you're able to get more 'me' time soon Naomi and that your bucket overflows.
-Hayley xx
thank Hayley. I think I need to cut back a little and spend a bit more time filling my bucket. Always so much going on. But that is life really isn't it. N x
DeleteThere is something in the air Naomi, I tell you. I just wrote a post expressing those same feelings. I've been feeling all week. I'm hoping my bucket is filled this weekend. Hopefully it will put me on the right foot for next week. I hope this weekend does the same for you.
ReplyDeleteYes, Mandy I am looking forward to the weekend as well. I am hoping to spend a little more time filling my bucket. Hope you have an awesome weekend as well. N x
DeleteI play Words with Friends with my internet buddy in Canada and then I get back into the swing of what I should be doing! Hope your day improves! Especially since it is the end of the week!
ReplyDeletelove your idea. keeps your mind active as well!
DeleteI am so feeling this way this week and I actually dont refill my bucket normally but you have inspired me to do so.
ReplyDeleteI just got child number 4 who is 6 mths old down for a nap and I think a relax and coffee are in order for sure.
Loving reading your blog, thank you
xxx
Oh! I hope you found some time out for you today and thank you xx
DeleteI have days like that all the time - and I only have 1 cherub! So often I forget to fill my bucket - too busy running a business, a household, a family.
ReplyDeleteWhen I remember, and I can, I go for a walk in the forest which is near my home. Or if the Munchkin is home, I pull weeds in the yard. More than anything, being out in nature, with my own headspace, does the job!
I love getting out amongst nature as well. I currently have a veggie garden that needs some serious weeding and I hope to get stuck into it this weekend. N x
DeleteMy mother sent me the link to this post as yesterday i was telling her that i felt exhausted and that i had nothing left to give... my "cherub" is almost 2 and after a hellish week he is showing me some mercy today as we are having a lovely day together and i am feeling that my bucket is being filled again through his smiles finally after a week of tears! And tonight i plan to have a lovely long candle lit bubblebath followed by a sleep in in the morning thanks to my beautiful husband x children definately help you to appreciate the smaller things in life x thankyou for your post it made me feel comforted in that i am certainly not alone in often feeling this wayxxx
ReplyDeleteWow! so touched that your Mum sent this to you. I hope you get that bubble bath (one of my favourite ways to relax) and the weekend brings a little more peace. 2 year olds really do stretch us but this time will pass and you may not believe this but you will miss it as they get older :)
DeleteHI Naomi
ReplyDeleteYes, I do often feel like this and I always come back to think of my mother when she was letting on about this feeling and how I would think....oh yeh, as if......Now I know it is very real and it can only take me 30 mins of doing something for myself to top the energy up again!x
It is amazing how much difference 30 minutes just for you makes. Love that you do that.
DeleteI am trying to find something that is filling my bucket at the moment. Blogging used to and I'm hoping I get get back to it soon. I miss it but at the same time it was stressing me out. I have found that exercise is a good start to filling that bucket, but I think my bucket is now just a small one from the sandpit, not a 44gallon drum that it used to be before kids. Thanks for a great post x
ReplyDeleteExercise is an awesome way to fill your bucket. Blogging fills mine up some days and other days it drains me. Hard to keep a balance isn't it? N x
DeleteSometimes I just make soup! :)
ReplyDeleteLove it!
DeleteI am trying to work that out right now. This morning was one giant battle just to get 2 simple errands done. Ones that without kids would've taken 5 minutes, if that. It took over an hour. Then we went to watch planes as that usually cheers Jon-son up and gives me a little bit of time to just read my book or something. But no, that too had to be one big headache. So home we went and while the kids wreaked havoc, I tried to sneak off to the toilet hoping for a few minutes peace and quiet. No, they followed there too. Took out my frustration on the kitchen and cleaning that up, hung on for another half hour or so to truly wear them out and then that was it. Bed time.
ReplyDeleteI had been so looking forward to getting some sewing done, but I'm just too mentally and physically exhausted. Which makes me even sadder. I think maybe I need to nap too, although I feel like if I do try, Darling will wake up just as I finally drift off, which will make me crankier. I think a coffee and a piece of cake while watching some Gilmore Girls and lying on the couch is in order. And an early night.
A "couch" evening or morning or afternoon. Or a whole day if I can. To read something brainless, to watch something mindless, to eat chocolate and to just be.
ReplyDeleteI needed to read this post this week. Thank you for reminding me I am not alone!
For me I usually pack up the kids and head for the path next to the beach but if the MR is home I will either go for a walk or bike ride in my area.... this time of exercise helps me to put things into perspective and ready to face life once again... The joys of being me, a wife and a mother... <3 it!!!
ReplyDeleteThis was beautifully written! I have often in 18 years of motherhood felt this way! You described it so well! For years I really didnt know how empty my bucket would get. I have found hard hard exercise and good reading helps me. With exercise I have been able to avoid seasonal depression-hence being a better Mom and wife!
ReplyDeleteKeep writing!
I hope your bucket starts filling up soon Naomi. For me I have to go to the gym or just learn to say no more. I also try to prioritize things as to what's necessary, what's important and what doesn't matter. Love to you xxx
ReplyDeleteI used to eat chocolate. Now, I just have some alone time and hope.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your time putting yourself first. I hope your bucket fills up soon.
I used to eat chocolate as well. Now I try to be more active. Making a big difference.
DeleteI like to sit at the piano and attempt to play the hymns. I always feel better when I play and sing "Abide With Me Tis Eventide." I agree with you though that a good cry is often needed also. Sometimes I crank up the radio/music and let the lyrics validate my feelings.
ReplyDeleteLove your bucket filling ideas Lisa. I love the hymns and cranking up some tunes as well. Really boosts my mood. N x
DeleteIt seems a lot of Mum's are feeling this way at the moment. I wrote a post similar to yours a week or two back. I was near breaking point & my life was running me. I certainly wasn't running it, if you get what I mean. I spent 2 days reading magazines in bed sipping tea & catching up on much needed sleep & chatted to girlfriends. Can you even imagine laying in bed for 2 days straight. The only thing I did was the school run, easy meals & a bit of uniform washing. To be honest it was all I was capable of at that stage of my life.
ReplyDeleteThis week I am slowly feeling energized & I am off to spend the night at a 5 star hotel with my 2 best friends tomorrow night. Bliss.
Never thought I'd say this, but exercise fills my bucket. I'm a changed woman. Hope your bucket gets a little more filled over the weekend. You are amazing xxx
ReplyDeleteLove it! Go you xx
DeleteI hear you. My bucket is drained so quickly at the moment... I think because my 37 weeks pregnant tummy is displacing more of the contents from the bucket! At the moment, I have realised for me that the only way to fill the bucket and keep it full is to not just take that all important me time but also to let go of the stuff that doesnt NEED to happen for us to survive... all the things that can wait until later or until someone else can help me with it :)
ReplyDeleteMy fav me time activity is to get a pedicure... nothing refreshes my bucket like pretty toes and smooth soles!
I have felt like this lately. I think it's totally normal. I love what you said about taking the time for yourself. We can't keep on doing everything for everyone else unless we feel happy. That's why I love to write and why I do it for me, not anyone else. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteI am getting better at topping up my bucket before I get completely empty. I like to stop and have a milo and/or read a book :)
ReplyDeleteI think my bucket has hole in it Dear Liza ;-) it takes a lot more energy to keep mine filled when I know the weekend has no time to spend on filling it.
ReplyDeletecertainly had days like this naomi! I think the first step is recognising your bucket is empty and acknowledging these feelings. Then a cry is always good and then maybe a plan to try and get out somewhere else when hubby comes home. Great post xx
ReplyDeleteYep, I can totally relate. I think what you do sounds really sensible, I fear that I keep going until bedtime and then feel resentful that I did not have time to myself to recharge.
ReplyDeleteI will remember to recharge first next time.
Have a blessed week. Mich x
Oh yes. Every mother's dilemma. I start right - a devotion or a prayer. Some time to myself. Even if it's sitting on the toilet for just a couple of minutes. It's amazing how that can fill our buckets!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, I love to read, and a bubble bath or massage. Even an hour down the street with no children attached makes me happy. It's the simple things these days.
xx