I love spending one on one time with my cherubs and recently took Liberty out on a lunch date to the park. It was blissful. Sunshine, trees, a lake, plenty of green grass to run around on and ducks. It was lovely to get out of the house, to break away from the routine and to just sit and talk. I find when I plan in the time to take my kids out for a one on one date our relationship becomes closer, we connect and my children feel happier. I see them start to help out around the house, hug me more and want to spend time with me. When I become too busy and we stop having dates together they are more likely to not listen to what I have to say and distance themselves from me. Making time for dates is worth the effort to have the kind of relationship with my kids that I want and it is total fun!
Do you go on dates with your kids?
I think it's so important but rarely make the time to do just that Naomi....I have started to take each of my girls out grocery shopping once a week (individually) and I know thats not exactly quality time but we do at least get that one on one chat time and I let them pick out food and count money etc which they really enjoy. Thanks for reminding me of something I want more of in my life :)
ReplyDeleteI always have one on one time with my daughter- we are around each other all the time.
ReplyDeleteBut my step-daughter never gets one on one time. Even when I plan it something happens and we have to change plans- ie- take miss 2 with us or miss out on our planned activity.
I used to. We would get a respite worker in for Boo and alternate each week which girl came out with me to a cafe for afternoon tea.
ReplyDeleteUntil they got to mid teens and they preferred hanging with their friends and spending time with me at home watching tv.
Well actually I do have dates with my kids..one on one...I have a movie date with Miss T (aged 7) tomorrow afternoon..we are watching Beauty and the Beast in 3D..I can't wait!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWith 3 kids, and being on my own with them while their Dad works away, and not having family close by to mind them, I find it ALLOT harder! It's on my mind to do, but not sure how to work it, as the after school care lady is only available the day we all have sports training. Do you have a set day/after school/during school or just random? The only option I'd have is to take them during a lunch break or at school time, and then only short bursts?
ReplyDeleteI don't have dates with my kids, but I'm starting to think maybe I should, especially now the eldest is at school, I think she often feels like she's missing out.
ReplyDeleteI'd love to know how you fit in time for individual dates with each of your kids? I only have 2 so far, & can spend one on one time with my youngest while her sister is at kinder, but the only time my eldest gets me to herself is when I take her for her swimming lesson if my mother can babysit my younger daughter. We've been having a stressful time lately & my eldest has been wanting time without her sister - both with & without me! Future post ideas maybe?
ReplyDeleteIt`s very important to play with ur kids, pay attention to what they do, cheer them with things which are suitable for grown-up - especially if we speak about dates. teach ur kid how to behave if there is a opposite-sex person, how to show ur feelings or how to refuse correctly. and in future ur child will have no problems!
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