I have a pet peeve with Bucket Lists. They get to me.
Actually, they drive me nuts!
Whenever I look on the internet for blog posts about bucket lists, I seem to spend about 1 minute reading them and then have to click away. I know a bucket list is a list of things you want to do before you die or a list of life goals you want to achieve in your lifetime but when I look at the current bucket lists available on the internet...I wonder why people set them when seriously, you can see there is no way they are actually going to achieve them.
The chances of me actually hosting Saturday night live, meeting Brad Pitt, riding in the Tour De France, playing in an orchestra, releasing an album, diving in a submarine, seeing gorilla's in a jungle, visiting all 50 states in America or even running with with the bulls are very slim. Most suggestions or recommendations on these buckets lists are just extreme. I understand they are encouraging us to dream big but some dreams, no matter how big you dream just don't end up coming true.
I am a realist. Enter the pet peeve.
If I was ever going to put together a Bucket List....hmmm....maybe a 'Buckets of Happiness' Ebook???!!!??? I would make it a list of achievable goals combined with dream goals. Goals that might actually stand a chance of happening. I would focus more on family and of doing goals together. Small goals that would stretch us but would also bring unity and fun to our lives.
So what are you thoughts about Bucket Lists: Do you love them?
Do they drive you crazy? Do you have one?
I love them and I'm achieving mine ..... Never in my mind did I ever expect to really meet the band the b52s! But I got up close and personal with them all...... Neither did I ever dream about having a speaking role on a tv ad...... We then renewed our vows with Elvis in a diner in las Vegas also! I've skydived, seen elephants, rhino lions and leopards in the wild. I'm 29 , mother of one little man.... I will only live once .... Why can't I have those things I dream of! That's only the tip of my bucket list iceberg
ReplyDeleteI love it! Go you! I loved the B52's when I was younger and it sounds like you have an awesome bucket list plan. Maybe because I feel like I am so busy and have so many kids I limit myself with my bucket list. You just might make me change my mind :)
DeleteI have a realistic bucket list. It consists of one thing at a time :-) (short list!) At the moment that is to be in a flash mob and I'm currently in rehearsals! I just see it as things you want to achieve that are a bit out of the ordinary and something to work towards. I must admit, some of them are ridiculous.
ReplyDeleteNo way! You are going to be in a flash mob. I would love to do that - they always look so much fun. Looking forward to reading about it. N x
DeleteI think each to their own. Let people dream however they want to. I tried to write a bucket list but it felt silly. Realistic goals felt more comfortable.
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I am happy for people to dream big as well but I still think so many of them are a little far fetched. N x
DeleteWhat? I'm not going to meet Leonardo Di Caprio :)
ReplyDeleteI think the important thing is to make sure it is YOUR bucket list and not a list of things that you think look good to others or "shoulds". The bucket lists that annoy me...ones that make out you have to eat fear for breakfast (jump out of planes, swim with sharks and base jump)...I'm all for getting out of your comfort zone, but it doesn't have to be life-threatening to be life-affirming.
Yes! Those buckets list that say you need to do crazy things to be happy. So much happiness for me comes from the simple joys in life. I am all for people making them but I think you are setting yourself up for failure by being too extreme. Thanks for your input Kirri. N x
DeleteA bucket list is just another list in my life - I am having enough trouble getting through the household to do list !! ;)
ReplyDeleteHa ha! Yes! Me too!
DeleteLove this reply!!! I am with you there Sister!
DeleteI have a bucket list, but I try to keep it realistic. I think I will get to visit all 50 states but that is because I actually live in America so I can drive to quite a few...but I don't have things that will never in a million years happen. I have actually never thought much about people's bucket lists. But I agree with you. If they are too extreme then what's the point?
ReplyDeleteI love that you have a bucket list Rhonda. I think it is fun to dream big and set crazy goals but I see so many bucket lists promoting that this is what you need to do that is sends me a little crazy :) Good luck with your list. N x
DeleteI've never drafted a bucket list. I've read many and I agree with you Naomi...most if it is unachievable.
ReplyDeleteI have never made one up either. thought about it but never done it.
DeleteI love bucket lists and am working on mine. My plan is to mark one or 2 things off a year. I love to dream big and think anything is possible if you put your mind to it. The amount of things that have happened to me in the past 2 years since I started setting BIG goals and going for them is amazing. I met people and have done things which surpassed my wildest dreams and hopes.
ReplyDeleteI hate the show off bucket lists. The ones where people just wrote a bunch of extreme things, not things they are really passionate about or want to do, just a list to beat other peoples lists or to show off about, if that makes sense.
Love that you are ticking things of your list Kylie. The show off bucket lists are the ones, I am talking about. Drive me crazy! Looking forward to seeing what else you get up to in the next year. N x
DeleteI have a local one to inspire myself and others to participate in cool things in our region. I also have some big personal dreams which I will make happen. Bucket lists are just like new years resolutions but with a bigger time frame, I try to include some of my long term dreams in my annual lists too. I love the quote she turned her dreams into plans and her can'ts in cans!
ReplyDeleteLove that you have a couple of different versions. Sounds great. I love that quote as well. N x
DeleteI don't have an actual, written down bucket list, but I do love them. One of the main reasons I haven't created a bucket list is that I'm not sure if I should include what I've already done (I won't write them here, because it kinda looks like one of your peev-y lists, but let's just say it does include visiting gorillas in the jungle.) What does anyone else think? Should it include the stuff you've already done?
ReplyDeleteSounds like you have already achieved some awesome goals with your list. I don't think there is anything wrong with including what you have already achieved. It will inspire you to dream bigger and go for more! N x
DeleteI totally agree. I look at some lists and think they are just so far beyond the scope of what most people would want to do...? :)
ReplyDeleteWhen hubby and I were engaged, we wrote down a "dreams" list of things we wanted to do at some point. Over the yeras we'd sort of forgotten about it, but stumbled across it last year during a clean-out. Amazingly enough, we'd achieved more than half of the list. Things like having a frog pond in our backyard, going to Bible College, having kids young, going on a road trip etc. Not 'huge' things, but for us as 18year old uni students it was dreaming big. And now hubby is going off to Israel soon - another of his dreams!
It was kind of cool to put our dreams to paper so we could see that were actually achieving things we'd dreamed of. If we hadn't, I think it would have been so easy to have dismissed each of those things and not realised how much of a 'dream' those things we actually have achieved were.
Love the goals you have achieved Hayley. Writing goals down makes a big difference in being able to achieve them. Hope hubby has a great trip to Israel. I would love to visit one day as well. N x
DeleteI don't have a bucket list. As someone above said just getting through the day to day list seems to be enough!
ReplyDeleteAs a Mum to four little cherubs aged 10, 7, 5 and 3 my list would probably contain things like *Go to the toilet alone. *Have more than 5 minutes of peace and quiet without endless questions or demands. *Have a clean and tidy house. (insert manical laughter.) *Get more sleep. Or perhaps I am aiming too high? :)
Just wanted to add that I adore my four gorgeous kids and instead of making bucket lists I am determined to *be* in the moment more and soak up every day with these little people, whol keep growing oh too fast.
My baby goes to Kinder next year for three days a fortnight and I honestly don't know where that time went.
Maybe I will contemplate my list above next year :)
Love your work Naomi and find you my new inspiration with your lovely large family and focus on making your home a lovely place to be.
Ha ha! The Mother's Bucket List. Love it. I also love the desire to be in the moment more. Those young years go so far. Thanks for dropping by Kat. N x
DeleteI have a bucket, but its in my head and not writen down.
ReplyDeleteIt is quite small and very realistic. It is basically full of stuff that will enable me to have a good life and make sure my family has a good life.
I dont want fame, I dont want fortune, I would love to travel lots, but if I dont get to its no biggy. I just want to live comfortably and to be able to give something back to my family and community.