We feel guilt for a variety of reasons. As a mother, one of the times I feel guilt the most is when I take time out to do something for myself. If I sit down at home and try to read or participate in some other relaxing activity I find myself looking towards the kitchen reminding myself I have dishes to put away or my mind starts to wander towards the washing that needs to be done. If I entertain these thoughts they start to escalate into a full blown guilt attack for actually taking time for myself.
Once upon a time, I let the guilt get the better of me. I would stop what I was doing and get up to finsh off those tasks. Now that I have had more experience with mother guilt, I ignore them. I push them from my mind and ride out the mother guilt. I let it come, I acknowledge it, I accept that is how I am feeling and then decide not to listen and to act. I keep myself firmly rooted in place and continue enjoying my time out and activity I am involved in.
It has taken me a while to get to this stage. Riding out the mother guilt took time, took practice and it took determination. For me, the guilt would come strongly, powerfully and it was hard to resist. It took me time to accept that this time out was worthwhile, that I was worthy of it and that it would be of benefit to my family. I am a big believer in taking time out to feel happier as a person, woman and mother. I love to encourage others to do so as well.
Taking a break from your normal routine is refreshing and needed. Overcoming guilt is also worth the time and effort to nourish and restore yourself. I find the older I get, the smarter I am at snatching little moments for myself and the more comfortable I am with spending time out on myself.
Although it has not been a easy journey to get to this stage it has taught me to be more aware of how I am feeling and what my needs are. Here is to happy mum's with guilt free time out!